I need advice. My boyfriend of 3 years, the love of my life, has his 11 year sobriety anniversary coming up next month. I asked him if we can celebrate his "Rebirth Day" (that is what he calls it) and he very firmly said, no. Now, when I say celebrate, I mean a special date night where we do what he wants to do; dinner, see a concert, go to the theatre, movie marathon of his favorite movies, etc.. He told me that he doesn't feel right, celebrating something that people lose their lives to. Am I being selfish for wanting to celebrate how strong he is, how far he has come and how proud I am of him? I admit that I know very little about alcoholism. A few years back I myself quit drinking. Though I drank very rarely, when I did drink, it was to an excess. To me he seems to feel guilty about his accomplishment. Before anyone assumes... I can say that I am 99.99% sure that his "guilt" is not because he has slipped and had a drink. He lost a friend early this year to cancer but according to the doctors, his past alcoholism (clean for several years) and what it did to his body, was a partial cause for his health to decline so quickly. Am I crazy? Am I being selfish? He knows how proud of him I am. I just want HIM to be proud of HIM.
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