
Alcoholism Support Group
Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.
If you want to learn more about us, you can ask away, but don't judge us, because we aren't guilty, meaning this alcoholism that we possess was by no means premeditated. We will try our best to help you understand, tho we ourselves still don't get in entirely.
He has to want to quit drinking for HIM I can't convince him to do it for me. So I keep on loving him. Loving the things that I fell in love with and letting him figure his own way to sobriety. But I take care of me. I have to.
I haven't been a part of Al Anon for very long but long enough to learn the three C's...you didn't cause his alcoholism, you can't control it, and you can't cure it. He has made it very clear that he is not ready to give the beer up and until he does, there is nothing you can do. You can beg, threaten, cry, plead, dish out all the ultimatums in the world but I can tell you from my own experience that it will do nothing except backfire on you and add more fuel to an already stoked up fire. He has got to want it for himself! Al Anon has saved my sanity one piece at a time because I am slowly learning who I am and what I do and don't want for my life and the lives of my children. Al Anon is helping me to learn to care for me and to get myself stronger because the reality is I am as sick as he is...which is the number one reason why I haven't left even above the love I have felt. Please seek out a local group and start going. If that is not an option there are some online avenues as well such as www.stepchat.com and there is a subgroup here at DS of Al Anon. As you are able, invest in their literature and read it daily. It will help you to apply it to your daily life. Al Anon is not there for you to fix your spouse...it is there to help you grow stronger!
Ask about co-dependency when you meet with with your therapist. It will help you understand why you keep going back to him.
Love & prayers