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on the fence

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First I want to say to everyone here on DS, I truly wish everyone a sober and Happy Thanksgiving. The Holidays are a hard time for us. Alcohol is everywhere we go and is described as "cheer". We are tested more at this time of the year than any other in my opinion. I want to say to anyone that is "on the fence" and hanging on for dear life(some of us more than others) not to give in and use the holidays to drink like I did year after year. That merry-go-round is never ending. Before you know it it's summer again and your still drinking. This year is a great year to be sober during the Holidays. For anyone who hasn't had a sober season in a long time, this is your year to do it. And I'm here to tell you that you can. If your willing to do the work. That would be the best gift of all that you could give to yourself. Be good to yourself this year. It's time. We are all in this together.
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This will be the first time I've really been around other people who are drinking while I'm not. I know I can do it but I don't know how how hard it will be.
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when I was new to sobriety i doubled up on the meetings during this time.
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thinking about it..... i drank every day, holiday or not. now i have some tools to help me do otherwise
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My family still drinks and I know how hard it can be to be around people who are drinking. I take my bb with me everywhere (it's in my purse). It's there when I need it (and so is my higher power). It is hard in the beginning but if you stay strong it gets easier as the months go on. I am in retail and work around alcohol everyday and let me tell you, I can't believe I drank some of that shit that sits on the shelf....I think that is what keeps me grounded, I mean the way I see some people act when drinking and I am so blessed that I don't act like that anymore....anyway keep your book close and stay strong...I hope this made sense to some.HAPPY THANKSGIVING
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Almost forgot....I only really celebrate Xmas. My family gets together on Xmas Eve as my mom and I work on all Holidays....some say I have turned into a workaholic but with time and a half pay....you bet I'm gonna work (my daughter is with her dad and sisters on holidays)sorry just needed to add that
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You got it...this will be my first sober holiday season in many years, but I'm determined that it will be. You are right I owe it to myself (as well as my family, but have to take care of me first).
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I love the holiday's and i will stay sober no prob, take care.The ppl in here need more healthier views of holiday's, it's not just for drinking lol.
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There's an excellent reference to "being on the fence" in the movie Facing the Giants. It's a spiritual movie and I like to find the similiarities not the differences. Anyway, there is a specific quote to a character that is sitting on the "fence" of an issue and the main character's response to it is classic. Good holiday movie rental!
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If you have to go to a party, I always arrive a little late, and depart very early, a lot of the drinkers think you were there to the end anyway.

Have a great Holiday all

Trickey
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The town I live in now is very recovery friendly.My home group is having Holiday stuff going on and most groups are having meetings throughout the holiday season.
I don't mind being around alcohol some times. I know it is not safe for me to drink so I don't drink. I also know that there are people that can drink sociably because they do not suffer from my disease. So I expect alcohol around and I am not caught off guard. I check in with myself often when I do have to be around it and have gratitude for noticing that a lot of my AA friends are taking cakes this time of year also. So I celebrate the holidays with my sober friends too.
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This will be my first sober holiday season since I was a kid. I'm looking forward to the challenge and I don't think I'll have any troubles. I think I've caused enough embarrassments to my family and to myself to just be humble and sober this holiday season. The thing I'm most concerned about thats coming up is a UCLA football game this Saturday. All this week my friends have been hyping up how crazy we're going to get, hopefully I can stay D.D. and just be the sober cook grilling up the hot dogs hehe.
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I agree with Trickey. It good to avoid the playgrounds and playmates from the drinking/drugging days. When you can't (or won't), plan your entrance and exits. Always have a way out. When things get squirrelly in my head or the drunks become un-amusing....it's time to head out. You friends won't remember your entrance and exit only that you did show up for a time.
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This will be my second holiday season sober.
I am very well reminded of my last season drunk, as I was 49 years old and for the first time dis-invited to my sisters home due to her and the rest of the family's horror at what might happen that time. I agreed with them not to come, as I knew I was consumed by my sickness and had long ago lost any managablility in my life.
This was a humbling and dispiriting experience, as I sat home alone just sloshed, and in the cups of self-pity. Not pretty, inside or out.
I got into treatment the next month. It finally took.
Last year I was sober at holidays,and I was a bit nervous with family and no booze, but this year I feel relaxed and happy to move along with the festivities, of course always leaving myself an out if things or my emotions get dicey.
Have a nice time everyone!
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