Okay so I am having a problem and I want everyone's opinion/advice on this one. I work with a guy, a friend of mine I would say and he is my age. We hang out together and of course drink together. He is like a brother to me in some ways. Anyway so more than once I have said I was not going to drink anymore and then when he asks to go out I can't stand strong (and frankly don't want to) and so always end up drinking. Anyway so for some reason I am so weak around him. I can have my mind made up that I am staying sober, I can be doing really well but then he comes along and it is like I just melt. It is so hard. I want to stay sober but as soon as he comes along I want nothing more than to go out with him and have a good time. I just can not seem to tell him I am trying to stay sober. I feel torn in 2 over it. Part of me wants to tell him and part of me doesn't. The hard part is I work with him and in a career where drinking is so prevelant. I don't know how anyone stays sober there. So the thing is deep in my heart I really do want to stop drinking, I am scared of what happens when I do and I don't like myself when I do. So how do I get over him and level with him because I know until I can do that I am always going to keep falling.I am open for suggestions please.
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