I am here to just vent about my husband. I am not an alcoholic, I don't even drink. To begin with I hope I don't offend anyone, by maybe not being in the right place posting this. I will be married to my husband 20 years come December. He has always drank..and early on in our marriage, I also drank...but very controlled and very little. So anyway, his drinking through the years has just increased so much. HIs personality has seemed to change as well? Is this normal? He is just so obnoxious and embarassing sometimes. Today, we were at the store and I had to just walk away from him. He gets so full of himself and thinks that he is just hilarious and it just makes me sick. He is not the man he used to be. Everytime I say anything about his drinking, he just counters it with, how he's fine and he works hard for his family and he just turns it on me like I have a problem. My emotions are so torn..one minute I'm furious with him yet the next minute, if he's running a little behind on when he's supposed to be home...I get real nervous and worried because I never know if he's in a ditch somewhere..or if he's at a friends..etcc. For years now I have not been able to bring any issue to the table because everytime I do, he just turns it completely around on me, like I'm the one with the problem. Is this typical behavior for an alcoholic? He is one of four siblings, one died in an alcohol related accident , and the other two are full blown alcoholics. He has often said that by marrying me, I kinda saved him from that. Not anymore, he's going down that same road now, it just took longer. I'm scared and I have no idea what to do. I haven't been able to talk to him for years about any issue and I don't even try anymore, which in turn, makes me an emotional basketcase full of nerves. Any advice on who I should be talking to or what I need to do?
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