so you dont want to quit? if you do maybe aa might work for you it did me thats my exp and my 2 cents

good luck with your decision. sounds like excuses to me.You just haven't gone low enough yet.I hope the best for you and i hope you make it back.I would be willing to bet $ that your family is very aware of your problem.

not an excuse hun. i ave only just realised that i have a problem with it. and i know that from many yrs of sufferin with depression if i gave it up know then i wud not cope over xmas. dont know if u ave rd my profile but u will c that i have been thru some real shit and it is not easy to accept the real world for wot it is hun.the point is that i have made the decision to do wot i said as i really dont want to miss out on my own party which i am having on th 22nd in my house wit all my mates. i dont c my family that much so they dont have any idea of my problems and i dnt tell them either as they can be very judgemental on times.

Been there, done that, hated it. I just hope you don't wake up dead or almost dead in the hospital in a coma like I did when I continued my denial. No one can make that decision but you.

A tough one, I am walking a close friend through it now, and we have agreed that perhaps he should leave it till after Xmas.

But his situation is different, is is very hard core, red faced, sweats, shakes, withdrawls the lot, so some care needs to be taken.

Why am I allowing him this, well because he has already been to see a counsellor, he has a Doctors appontment next Wednesday, he has began and is following his journey, he wll receive medical help and be introduced to AA and other support groups.

As for you my new friend, I am not so sure, after Xmas comes New Year, then next year you will have a birthday, so will friends and family. there will be births, christings, you might win a fiver or the bloody sun might come out, for you it everything will remain an excuse not to stop drinking.

What problem are you telling the family about, that you have decided to stop drinking, how big a problem is that, all of mine said thank christ, not before time we thought you were going to die.

You are your own excuse and nothing else.

Xmas is truly a fantastic time and even more fantastic sober,so where is the excuse ?????

Saying this as a cyber friend, if you want to give up the booze give it up. there are no excuses I am afraid

Trcikey

Honey, my best guess is that they already know you have a drinking problem. Most people knew that I had a serious drinking problem well before I thought it was at all obvious. I think most of us had a reason to stop drinking at a later time and another later time and and and - but good luck I hope this works for you.

Good luck, I don't think you're ready to quit, but keep in mind that alcoholism is an aggressively progressive disease, so will you live to see it through the month if you're drinking, or will you be incarcerated or institutionalized somehow. Only you can make that determination.

Alot of people persue alcoholism into the gate of insanity or death, from the big book.It is so true alot of people won't accept that they are alcoholic, no matter what, and probably will die. It's a disease that is a killer.

I can understand what you are going through and you have the right to make a choice for yourself. You posted it here though and asked for feedback so I'm thinking that a part of you knows that despite your decision to keep drinking a part of you still doesn't want to? Depression is a reason so many people drink and alcohol, a depressant, only compounds the problem. I can't begin to describe how low I feel after a night of drinking and how long it takes to get some sort of feeling of sanity again after I've stopped. If you are battling with clinical depression, alcohol is your worst enemy. You will never become completely well as long as you are drinking. The holidays are a really tough time in terms of depression and temptation to drink so I really can relate to your feelings there. How is drinking, a depressant, going to help you though? If you tend to drink more during the hoidays, and the holidays are an especialy rough time for you...is it possible it's the drinking that has made this time of year that much worse for you? Just a thought. Why would you have to tell your family and friends anything? Couldn't you just say your on antibiotics for a sinus infection or something else minor and can't drink? Just an idea, I am by no means trying to preach here. I'm having a difficult time trying to figure out how to have fun during the holidays because I always used drinking and parties for fun. I know it can be done though and so I am determined to figure it out. Wouldn't it be so nice to look forward to the holiday celebrations and drinking is not even an issue? Getting excited about seeing friends and family and not even thinking about drinking at all? No anxiety. No drinking too much and waking up even more depressed? No drinking at all and having a great time. I really want that.

Anyways, I got off track here but I do hope your holidays go well and that you get through this ok. What if after a month you are even more resistant to treatment?

I find the support I need in meetings.

Every season is party season to me...

I just spent thanksgiving with my family and watched them all get drunk as hell...

I didn't get drunk.

I also went to a club with all my cousins and watched all them get drunk. Stopped them from getting their asses kicked too.

I didn't drink...

I had a great time with all of them except for the part where I almost had to beat my Dad's drunk ass because he put his hands on me. I didn't though. He is mentally sick. There is nothing I can do that would help. An ass whoopin wouldn't help either.

I think and rationalize like this because of A.A. and the twelve steps. I can do anything and go any where and be okay as a result.

Peoples opinions are like assholes, we all have them and they usually stink.

That is okay today. I don't listen to or care about the opinions of people who don't have my best interest at heart.

Me staying sober is priority #1. Everything else comes 2nd.

I could give a rats ars what family thinks of me sober cause i tell you one thing,,, all they lost was a drinking buddie... and my chilren well what can i say, there gaining their Mother back,, and we are going to have a AWESOME Christams togehter, don't no about you but my kids are my family now.... my first family the one i grew up in stary drunk together and i wish them all best .... wish you all the best also.... i much rather enjoy saying i look forward to a sober christmas....Good luck on your journey...

Hon, I hope you are alive to sober up in 2008. Many ppl drinking right now will not be. I hope you are one who makes it. By the way, did you know that alcohol is a major depressant? So if you are going to be depressed this holiday season, guess what? Putting alcohol into the body will only make you much more depressed.

Hi - interested insight from others, PO I think you maybe just postponing the inevitable, My friend the little I know of you tels me you are not quite ready to stop - but you are close. Only you KNOW what is right, - either way Good Luck

good luck on your holiday ventures. only you can decide when to quit. be safe and i'll leave the light on for when you return

I think when you are ready, you will be ready. at least you have come forward and made the realisation that you have a problem. Just like you, I have only just decided to come forward and know what? I am scared as hell about never drinking again. i enjoy having a few ( or more) drinks, but it is just no good for me, I don't know when to stop. If you think it will be easier after Xmas, just make sure you keep it in mind. It can be horrible to have to admit to others that you have a problem. Just don't let go of the idea that you DO want to make a change.