Here is my current situation: my husband I are "legally separated". The separation papers have been filed with the courts, and we each have our own family law attorney. HOWEVER, we still live in the same house, eat dinner together each night with our daughter, attend church together, and sleep next to one another in the same bed (no sex though). Along with the separation, my husband was able to get the family law court to grant him "sole custody" while I deal with my alcoholism. The courts granted me "supervised visitation". HOWEVER, my husband leaves for work by 6:30 am every morning. I am left alone with my daughter almost every single day. If my husband has business travel, I am left overnight alone with my daughter (he often must leave for 1 or 2 nights for his sales job). Essentially my daughter is awake from 7:30 am until 8:30 or 9:30 pm. Of those 12 to 14 hours that she is awake, I am with her the entire time, unless she has a 2 hour playdate somewhere, or like today she is in camp from 9 til 2 pm. Other than that I am with her while my husband works. The point of this post is this: my husband continues to threaten me with loss of custody of my daughter, and he also claims that he has the authority do whatever he wants with regards to our daughter (all because of the court situation). But, the reality of our day to day situation is so much different. I ask you: Are we truly "separated"? And, do I really have no custody of my daughter?? I have been documenting everything we do each day so that the courts can see that my husband has not followed court orders or complied with having me be supervised when my daughter is with me. I am just wondering about what people on DS think about this, and what should I do right now to deal with this (and yes, I know staying SOBER is the #1 thing I need to do right now!)
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