Alcoholism Support Group
Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.
I have been sober, again, for 220 days.
My heart aches because I lost someone that I thought was a really great friend. I don't even know what happened. All I know is that we were both users and were sick of it and we talked about quitting a lot. Plus, we got along so great, unless it was all an act on his part.
One day he was here, and the next day he was gone, supposedly into rehab. And I am a "trigger" so he "has to" stay away from me.
I can accept that what he is going thru is tough, really really tough, and for some reason he does not want to see me. But I also feel I at least deserve to know why, or at least something, not just silence. And to be labeled a trigger when I was the only one he could talk to about quitting? I don't get it.
My sadness is overwhelming at times, but I take the best care of myself as I can because I deserve to. I just cannot accept the fact that he "hates" me or "used" me for anything. We seemed to have adeep connection. But maybe I misread everything. I hate it that I worry about him so much.
My heart aches because I lost someone that I thought was a really great friend. I don't even know what happened. All I know is that we were both users and were sick of it and we talked about quitting a lot. Plus, we got along so great, unless it was all an act on his part.
One day he was here, and the next day he was gone, supposedly into rehab. And I am a "trigger" so he "has to" stay away from me.
I can accept that what he is going thru is tough, really really tough, and for some reason he does not want to see me. But I also feel I at least deserve to know why, or at least something, not just silence. And to be labeled a trigger when I was the only one he could talk to about quitting? I don't get it.
My sadness is overwhelming at times, but I take the best care of myself as I can because I deserve to. I just cannot accept the fact that he "hates" me or "used" me for anything. We seemed to have adeep connection. But maybe I misread everything. I hate it that I worry about him so much.
-
I miss traveling with my husband. Has anyone found a specific site regarding cruising for widow/widowers or any sightseeing trips. Not interested in being with couples and kids,,,I realize a cruise ship will have a portion size of families and couples, but perhaps they also put together a part of the cruise ship for groups of widows/widowers????
-
A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...
I have explained to my friend where I am at. I have said that these are my issues and have asked they be patient with me.
The most important thing here is that you stay sober and your friend gets well. It is hard not to take this personally I know but from what I read, it isn't.
I had a best friend/drinking buddy that I had to give up after a while, because there were so many fun time memories we shared together, and many of them were spent in a bar together.
If he get to AA and works the steps, in time he may be able to come back around.
Sorry for your sadness. I know it was hard for me to put distance between me and my best friend.
It isn't that he doesn't want to see you ~ he CAN'T. If he does, he'll want to slip and drink again, and he cannot do that! You weren't "used" and you aren't "hated." If you're like I was, you will come to a point where you will find out that the world doesn't revolve around you. I had to discover that too.
Hopefully in time, when he is strong and has a bunch of 24 hours under his belt, you two will be able to see one another again. Until then, wish him well. God bless and keep coming backk! Hugs, Lee
(The friendship I refer to above...I think our friendship is 'stuck' 5 years plus more ago and that is why I get anxed over meeting up, I am just not that person anymore).
Also, we have a part to play here too and sometimes we have to look at why we feel this way.
If you have done the steps, do a resentment on it and see what your part is. I am having to do a few of these too with other people around me! Growllll haha
Listen, I was dissed by a friend who wanted nothing to do with me when I was sober too! It hurt so bad-but I know it was not "me" she was avoiding, it was what I represented. And I represented a very bad time in her life that she wanted to forget.
It hurts-but it is probably not about you.