At the risk of stirring the pot here, having been in recovery for over a decade now and having seen more people relapse (and even overdose) than I care to remember, I was just wondering if maybe it wasn't time for a new model of recovery. As good as AA is (it's where I got my start back in '94, in Berlin, believe it or not) and in spite of all the people it's helped over the past several decades, perhaps there's a better way, an approach that goes farther to insure lasting sobriety and peace of mind. I've got a theory: maybe we alcoholics aren't alcoholics at all--we're simply people who are compulsive and who's main compulsion, for whatever reason, happens to be alcohol. I've got another theory: pretty much everybody today is compulsive, and most people are poly-compulsive, which is to say, they engage in a lot of compulsions throughout the day (i.e., smoking, overeating, shopping, etc.). Yet another theory, if I may: compulsive behavior, if left untreated, leads to the following symptoms--depression, anxiety, restlessness and irritability, rage, migraines, ulcers, high blood pressure, difficulty sleeping, among others. One last theory, if I could: to truly overcome "alcoholism" and experience both lasting sobriety and peace of mind, it's not enough to simply stop drinking. We have to give up the entire compulsive lifestyle, which, of course, is a lot more work than your typical 12-Step program, but if that's going to bring true happiness and satisfaction to my life why not work a little harder? For one thing that I learned in AA and which has stuck with me through the years is the idea of going to any lengths to get clean and sober, to cling to my sobriety like a drowning man and paddle like hell to stay afloat. What do you think?
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