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Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

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OK I raised the question the other day regarding why people dislike the 12 Step program. After reading through all the replies I think I have a better idea and just want to offer my observations and yes my OPINION.
Pride is the first thing I noticed in almost every reply. The moment the word powerless is offered many rear up. The first thought is they can overcome anything and the idea they are a puppet to something like alcohol is repugnant. The TRUTH is once one has detoxed and completed withdrawal (this can take months ref. PAWS) they DO regain the ability to say NO. This does NOT mean they can control drinking later. They can try, however the odds are against anyone who has been under the influence of ANY drug for prolonged length of time are very low and the addiction will return usually stronger than when they quit.
A CURE? There is NO cure for alcoholism. The only hope for the real alcoholic (note the word real) is total abstinence which will ensure the continuation of REMISSION. A recovered alcoholic is one who no longer suffers from the horror of active addiction and the craving for the drink is gone. (Ref. THIQ and the disease concept of addiction/alcoholism)
Sponsorship and all those people telling me what to do. I believe that while in the addiction we picked up negative behaviors, attitudes and our thinking got twisted. We tend to continue to react to what is seen as criticism but in truth is no more than offering someone the experiences of many and the means to recognize shortcomings along with ways to overcome or change. The feeling of being attacked is due to the similarities in the stories told and/or the idea that those people are able to pinpoint ,so exactly, character flaws is frightening. I will deny NO ONE the thought that will power alone will get them free from their addiction. It can be done. The problem is the lingering anger, resentments, and misery. These things can be put behind but NOT BY YOURSELF.
All the 12 Step program does is use guilt and shame to make one feel worse. Yes at first one DOES feel guilt and shame. Its natural to, after one gets clean enough to think they remember what they did with clarity and understand . That they were the major source of their problems in life is heartbreaking. What many fail to see is that there IS a means to replace ones past with a new one. By learning what we did wrong we no longer have to repeat that behavior. We can create a NEW past starting from our clean date.
The success rate is 100% for those that entered with an open mind a longing in their heart to change and with HONESTY. Relapse after any periods of time is NOT due to the failure of the program but to the individual becoming complacent or so dogmatic in their beliefs that they become frustrated and resentful and quit all together or, and what I see most, an unwillingness to wait for OTHERS to see it working (also know as impatient) and acknowledge those changes.
GOD I was listening to a Christian radio station a few years ago and the announcer threw out the question what is another name for God). After some 2 hours of fielding answers and repeatedly saying yes however that is not the answer we are looking for he said just one word as the answer OTHERS. It makes no difference what your religious affiliation is. Church, AA/NA, name your support group, creationists and yes even atheists. The majority of the population of the world have an innate desire to be of assistance and a source of support to OTHERS. The spiritual side of the program offers a heart to heart connection to the OTHERS in the room even here on DS that is apparent. MY hope is that all gain a connection with GOD himself. I am happy with the connection I have made with everyone here. Even when we DONT agree.
My addendum to step 12 is this. Having made a spirit to spirit connection with the many we have come in contact with may we join together as one to carry this message of HOPE to those that still suffer. May they see what is offered in our words and see the proof as WE offer it through our practicing of the principles of the program.
Long winded and just my opinion and any additions are welcome.
Pride is the first thing I noticed in almost every reply. The moment the word powerless is offered many rear up. The first thought is they can overcome anything and the idea they are a puppet to something like alcohol is repugnant. The TRUTH is once one has detoxed and completed withdrawal (this can take months ref. PAWS) they DO regain the ability to say NO. This does NOT mean they can control drinking later. They can try, however the odds are against anyone who has been under the influence of ANY drug for prolonged length of time are very low and the addiction will return usually stronger than when they quit.
A CURE? There is NO cure for alcoholism. The only hope for the real alcoholic (note the word real) is total abstinence which will ensure the continuation of REMISSION. A recovered alcoholic is one who no longer suffers from the horror of active addiction and the craving for the drink is gone. (Ref. THIQ and the disease concept of addiction/alcoholism)
Sponsorship and all those people telling me what to do. I believe that while in the addiction we picked up negative behaviors, attitudes and our thinking got twisted. We tend to continue to react to what is seen as criticism but in truth is no more than offering someone the experiences of many and the means to recognize shortcomings along with ways to overcome or change. The feeling of being attacked is due to the similarities in the stories told and/or the idea that those people are able to pinpoint ,so exactly, character flaws is frightening. I will deny NO ONE the thought that will power alone will get them free from their addiction. It can be done. The problem is the lingering anger, resentments, and misery. These things can be put behind but NOT BY YOURSELF.
All the 12 Step program does is use guilt and shame to make one feel worse. Yes at first one DOES feel guilt and shame. Its natural to, after one gets clean enough to think they remember what they did with clarity and understand . That they were the major source of their problems in life is heartbreaking. What many fail to see is that there IS a means to replace ones past with a new one. By learning what we did wrong we no longer have to repeat that behavior. We can create a NEW past starting from our clean date.
The success rate is 100% for those that entered with an open mind a longing in their heart to change and with HONESTY. Relapse after any periods of time is NOT due to the failure of the program but to the individual becoming complacent or so dogmatic in their beliefs that they become frustrated and resentful and quit all together or, and what I see most, an unwillingness to wait for OTHERS to see it working (also know as impatient) and acknowledge those changes.
GOD I was listening to a Christian radio station a few years ago and the announcer threw out the question what is another name for God). After some 2 hours of fielding answers and repeatedly saying yes however that is not the answer we are looking for he said just one word as the answer OTHERS. It makes no difference what your religious affiliation is. Church, AA/NA, name your support group, creationists and yes even atheists. The majority of the population of the world have an innate desire to be of assistance and a source of support to OTHERS. The spiritual side of the program offers a heart to heart connection to the OTHERS in the room even here on DS that is apparent. MY hope is that all gain a connection with GOD himself. I am happy with the connection I have made with everyone here. Even when we DONT agree.
My addendum to step 12 is this. Having made a spirit to spirit connection with the many we have come in contact with may we join together as one to carry this message of HOPE to those that still suffer. May they see what is offered in our words and see the proof as WE offer it through our practicing of the principles of the program.
Long winded and just my opinion and any additions are welcome.
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I know that I do need help
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Honestly I want to try to understand the steps....
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Maybe it is arrogance that keeps me from saying powerless....
maybe I do need to look at myself and my short comings as well
I have always been very prideful and its hard for me to trust sometimes....lots of times...lol....
trust has always been a huge one with me....
I will try to keep an open mind always