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It hurts a lot!

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When I hear a particular song on the radio. It's called The Reason by Hoobastank. My boyfriend dedicated it to me about a year before he passed away. Well the song is talking about apologizing for everything he put me through and he wanted me to know this before he goes (That is the context of the song) I just heard it on the radio. Gary told me he was dying and I never believed him. For those of you that don't know he was an alcoholic. He didn't show the typical signs of liver failure (jaundice) he didn't want to go to the hospital because he had severe paranoia at times (due to previous drug use)so he didn't tell us exactly how sick he was. When he told me he was dying my response was we are all dying.. That haunts me.. I was cold to him at times because I was so affraid of this happening. I don't know how to forgive myself.. I just heard that song and I miss him so much!!!!!
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I am sorry for your loss. Guilt is a pretty worthless emotion. You didn't mean anything bad and I'll bet that he didn't take it that way. Anyway, you couldn't know to take it more seriously because he hadn't told you. He knew that you loved him and cared for him and that you didn't mean anything by it. You can't change yesterday, you can only live today the best you know how.
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Thank you for your response.. It means a lot!!
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I am sorry for your loss. When my Grandmother was alive, when I found out that she drank and did prescription drugs. I hated her, didn't want to be around her. It was only when I went thru treatment that I finally was able to accept her alcoholism and drug addiction.
It wasn't until her funeral that I was able to make my amends.I felt that she forgave me. I miss her. Guilt is my own worst enemy. I can feel guilty over any little thing. One thing is to forgive yourself.
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