Alcoholism Support Group
Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.
I got on the site to rant and really lay into my husband.
I had told him that I was meeting with a AA member to discuss getting my program started and he didnt say much at the time. But the next day he wanted to know why I had to meet this person(male) alone. I told him Im meeting with an alcoholic whos mission is to help other alcoholics get and stay sober. I asked what do think Im going to do? He said I was going to sleep with him(not the word he used). I was like why would I do that? His replay cause I can, cause I cheated on my ex-husband. I respect his feeling but I think these feelings have no bases and I have the right to defend myself. Sure I have done stupid, dangerous things drunk in this relationship and have said stuff I regret now but I havent done that. Well none the less I let him convince me not to attend the meeting or meet with that member. So I called the fellow to let him know I wasnt going to make it. I was upset and crying. And this guy put me straight. You must go to any length for your sobriety, you cant let another dictate to you on this, you have to put your foot down even if he is angry. As you work the program and he sees the effort he may become supportive.
We didnt speak much last night and I had a hard time sleeping in the same bed with him. But I stayed sober. Im going to call my old sponsor today and have a chat. I just want to be sober. I like waking up not hung over. )
Im not mad any more after reading a lot of what other are going through, the anger is not worth it. I love my husband and Im going to do what it takes to be well. I love myself that much.
Thanks for listening.
Bobbi Lea
I had told him that I was meeting with a AA member to discuss getting my program started and he didnt say much at the time. But the next day he wanted to know why I had to meet this person(male) alone. I told him Im meeting with an alcoholic whos mission is to help other alcoholics get and stay sober. I asked what do think Im going to do? He said I was going to sleep with him(not the word he used). I was like why would I do that? His replay cause I can, cause I cheated on my ex-husband. I respect his feeling but I think these feelings have no bases and I have the right to defend myself. Sure I have done stupid, dangerous things drunk in this relationship and have said stuff I regret now but I havent done that. Well none the less I let him convince me not to attend the meeting or meet with that member. So I called the fellow to let him know I wasnt going to make it. I was upset and crying. And this guy put me straight. You must go to any length for your sobriety, you cant let another dictate to you on this, you have to put your foot down even if he is angry. As you work the program and he sees the effort he may become supportive.
We didnt speak much last night and I had a hard time sleeping in the same bed with him. But I stayed sober. Im going to call my old sponsor today and have a chat. I just want to be sober. I like waking up not hung over. )
Im not mad any more after reading a lot of what other are going through, the anger is not worth it. I love my husband and Im going to do what it takes to be well. I love myself that much.
Thanks for listening.
Bobbi Lea
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
an awkward one, but they do say that it is best to have a sponsor of the same sex.
I am a guy and I would love to have a young atttractive female as my sponsor, but I am not sure it would do my sobriety any good.
The Gut (sponsor) you have met, might be 100% genuine, but then again maybe not.
I was taught at a very early stage, that not every one in the rooms may be as they first seem, it would be easy for a Guy, to pray on a women that was weak in her recovery, and of course to take advantage of the situation. This is not to say all, indeed I am a semi sponsor to a female, but I told her thats as far as I will go and that she must seek someone else, preferably female to be her main sponsor, why, well I think all on here know I am quite honest, so why, well she is quite good looking and I feel that could reflect in the advice I gave her.
It is fantastic that you are getting the help and support that you need, but please do not lose sight, that your husband my need some help to, this is life changing for you both, not just you, many partners fear the AA as they fear losing the partner they love. Once they see the benefit they begin to adjust, but also adding someone of the eopposite sex, is well, I am afraid asking a little to much, don't you think.
You say that you love your husband, so if you do respect him, as a man I will say that I would not be to happy with the situation (just ne being honest, I would ne happy they had joined the AA, but a male sponsor Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.
So do take a step back, and do reconsider your choice of sponsor.
I think you know the answer to this question, before you asked, maybe your hoping we will condone it, well fraid to say for one I don't
Trickey
sex sponsership, I think any way.
And do consider your partner, there new to this as well
Trickey
Mike well said I would say, and of course everyone else