Strange, seems like you have determination to change. The e must be someone you can relate to a little bit,. I hope you have'nt got a bad case of terminal uniqueness. ,I had that for awhile. I'm sure you will find somebody you can relate to, anyhoo don't sweat it. I wish you scucess in you endeavors.

Kaisimon, welcome. This is one avenue of experience, strength and hope where you can truly take what you want and leave the rest. Which is the key at the meeting too.

At ay first meetings, I didn't get that...I didn't understand that I was JUST LIKE THEM. Maybe some had it worse, others had it better, but once I started to truly listen, with my heart and soul, I found that EVERY meeting offered me some thing that helped me stay sober for that day. It might have been something someone said in a share, or maybe on of the steps hit me that day, or maybe something someone said to me privately. From that day on, EVERY meeting I go to and every day I come in here, I find something that helps me on my path.

Be well and more power to you.

When you say you haven't found anyone you relate to what do you mean by that? If you can be more specific we may be able to better help you.

Lyn

Nobody related to me and I do not drink an alcohol more then three years.Maybe ,,You have to change Your priorities .What do You want exactly? Die from alcohol or to find someone to relate to?

My honest opinion? I have faith that you can do it this time. How do I know? You sound EXACTLY like me. You wanted to stop drinking before, but you weren't quite ready. You are going back to AA and it sounds like sobriety is something you really want. That's the whole key. You have to REALLY want it. As far as finding someone you can relate to, take your time. It may not happen right away. Get to all the meetings you can so you have a chance to meet different people. Oh, and one other thing: running and working out is great, but try not to make too many changes at once or you might burn yourself out. I had tons of plans for when I stopped drinking: cooking meals from scratch, doing yoga, etc. I found that I was too exhausted to do much of anything at first! So take it slow, give yourself a week or two to let your body adjust to not having the alcohol, and then pick up some good habits to replace the bad. Good luck to you.

kaisimon,

You listed a few things you want, and you added that you haven't met anyone in AA you can relate to. I dig that, and I suspect that even though you'd like to have a better life at this point, you don't yet have the one thing that unites the rest of us in AA, which is a desire to stop drinking.

That motivation is the one thing AA can't give you. Everyone has to supply their own.

keep on listening at meetings, i know i have and still am and learning a lot everyday. keep on trying

Listen out of people talking about the illness of alcoholism. We all have different life experiences but that is the thing that we share in common.

Listen for people describing:

the phenomenon of craving - once we start drinking we cant stop.

the mental obsession and insanity - we pick up the first drink however much we decide not to and regardless of what the negative consequences will be

the spiritual malady - a disconnection from people, the world, any spiritual power, loneliness, fear, resentment, etc

Those are the important things to relate to as that will help you determine whether you are an alcoholic. Once you have got your head around that you will start to be able to relate to the solution in the 12 steps.

Relating to people in terms of life experience etc will come as you go to more meetings and get to know people better.

It is important that you evaluate things honestly. When I first went to AA I had a lot of delusional thinking and I thought "I have nothing in common with these people". When I eventually listened honestly I realised how much I had in common with them after all!

Well, you haven't given up and that's the best thing I heard from you! A relapse is not somethng to examine in a negative way, but try and see it as a positive experience which may have helped you learn more about the disease. Don't start over. Just pick up where you left off. I have been to meetings where i didn't feel I could relate to someone there but I have been to several different meetings. Everybody's been there. You are never alone!

Just give this a try.... Go to another meeting. Before and/or afterward, walk up to a stranger, hold out your hand and introduce yourself. If you feel awkward. Be honest and tell them he truth. Open up and they will feel blessed that you did. :)