I've been with my husband for 11 years. Most of the time we were alcoholics together. In 1998, he got a DWI/DUI and he vowed no more drinking and driving. He lied over and over again. I could smell it and he'd denied it. One night he hit a deer. Another time he ran in to a fence. Here it is 2009 and is still sneaking while at work. It just cost him his job. He didn't tell me the whole story. I had to point blank ask him if he was drinking when he got fired and he said yet. I think he had been having cocktails for a while and the management had to give him the ax. So we are having to sell our house and I've borrowed money from my parents to get by til our house sells . Do you think he will ever not lie to me? I keep telling him I can handle him telling me he fell off the wagon, but I can't stand the lying. I feel like it's a deal killer- all the lies, but I truly believe in marital vows and we love each other very much. Any ideas besides going to Al Anon?? Today is my 90 day sobriety. I thought he was sober, too......I feel so sad about the lying.
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