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how to say "no" on your own?

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my baby is saving me from drinking, but how long can i keep it up when the baby is born? im so scared im not going to be strong enough after my babys born and that i will stat drinking again. im not a very strong person at all and my depression seems to take over my life. im terrified, i keep crying worrying at what my future holds regarding alcohol. iv done so well not to drink during my pregnancy but like i said, its my baby saving me, i dont want to harm my baby. i feel sick typing this because im trying so hard to keep it together for my friends and family but i just dont know how long i can keep it up. my babys due in 3months.....3 months is all i have left untill i have to say "no" on my own. i havent been this scared in a long time.
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why fret so much your doing great, and why would you return to drink once the baby is born, surely you will love the baby as much as you do now, the child does not have to be in your womb to do damage, although its a very good reason not to drink now.

I am sure you want to be a great Mother, and when you hold the baby in your arms, do you really think you will want to drink.

Stop living in fear, this really is a day at a time, cross this hurdle when you get there, and lets hope its not the big hurdle that you imagine.

At least you are thinkng about it now, you are sharing it and so long as you reach out for help you will find it.

Congratulations and good luck

Trickey
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Maybe your Alcoholic and need a spiritual solution to go to for this. I did thru AA and have now been sober for over 6 1/2 yrs if god could remove my obsession over the drink than he can do it for anyone. Have you tried AA yet? Hope you get the help you need.
God bless
Dave
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first of all, congrats on your good job so far....what Dave said is so correct. Have you looked into AA. I never believed in a higher power or any of that stuff,(I though it was bull)But AA has changed my life, and having a higher power on your side (Its like a little majic jenny) is unbelievable. It gives you such strength you never knew you had. They also teach you in AA that is ONE DAY AT A TIME . You can only think about whats going to happen today. Dont waist this great time of your pregnancy worring about whats going to happen in 3 months. Enjoy this wonderful place your in, and think about going to an AA meeting, and see how that makes you feel. Just think about that for today, and you can worry about tomm. tommoro. Good luck
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Congratulations on looking after your baby already even before its born. I think you're going to be a great mother and you may be stronger than you know.
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I,also, could quit drinking when i was pregnant. most of the time i found myself on count down the last month or so. My children grew up with a drunk for a mom. Since you are in such a state of fear about this----that's your anwser. I got sober ]19 months ago and how i wish i had found AA while i was pregnant. If you start now you'll have a good start before the baby comes.While i hear about all the people you don't want to let down , I hear nothing about the most important one---YOU.If you don't take of yourself you will not be a stable resource for your kids. congrats on a great job!!!
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thanku so much for all ur advise, i would love nothing more than to go to a AA meeting but as i live in a small town there is no AA meeting for me to attend. This site is my AA meeting. i dont think my hormones (from pregnancy) are helping my nerves very much and i think thats making me worry more. im seeing my consultant on the 26th nov so ill see what he thinks. much love to you all. xxx
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Hey...where are you????
Are you still out there????
I hope you come back and read some of the posts, it is here you will find support if you can't get to a meeting.
Education on the disease....
Love of self....
And Love for your child will change you LIFE.....
and above all your Higher power has all the strength you need to help.
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Hi bex,Welcome and please keep coming back. Alot of good people with alot of good advice here.Take one minute at a time, or one day at a time.Take a deep breath, and start talking to God.Please let us know how you r doing. Be safe bex.
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I go too AA, so it makes things so much easier, and stay away from slippery places. It's really not as hard as our own minds have it out to be.
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I live in a remote area where it is impossible to attend AA meetings but believe me this site is the next best thing so log on each day and we are all here to help you. As for staying off after baby is born I am quite sure you will, you have already began to put your baby's health and needs first and this will become stronger when you hold him/her in your arms. There is no love as powerful and the love of a mother for her child and you will not put your precious child in danger by starting to drink. I will pray for you and the baby and look forward to getting progress reports through the site. God bless you and keep you both safe. Love Mairi
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it's easy to say NO on you're own with support and knowing where it will lead you. Personally I had to go to a 12 step program.I use to go everyday in the beginning, sometimes 2 times a day.
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That is the only time I found it easy to say no to alcohol as well. My son is turning 1 this week. The same day that I brought him home I had a drink. We got a bottle for Christmas and it was sitting there. I have been drinking again ever since. Except today I have committed myself to going to AA and i have told my doctor today and I am now done with it. If you're worried about it now, you better start telling friends and family early and you better make plans to go to AA. Good luck and congratulations on your soon- to- be- arriving little one:)
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Thanks for the post. Even after a baby is born damage can still be done if we drink. Try not to worry, it only feeds the disease. I know, easier said than done but do it anyway. Asking for help from a power greater than myself helps me. Best of wishes!
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