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My best friend is an alcoholic........ way worse than I ever imagined....... she has been on a 7 day bender and her ex - boyfriend "sons father" came to get him........ her son has been living at mine for the last week.... I have taken care of him... while also trying to scream out for help for her.......
My question is this............ her little boys father is going to court next week for full custody....... she doesn't realise as she is so drunk at the moment and is refusing to go to hospital....... Last night she had a knife to her threatening to stab herself if I did not get her alcohol....
I am afraid if I can't make her realise quick she is going to lose her son to his father - who she ran from because he beat her up - and that would be the end of her...........
Please someone let me know how to help her before it is too late and she loses the one thing in her life that means the world.....
My question is this............ her little boys father is going to court next week for full custody....... she doesn't realise as she is so drunk at the moment and is refusing to go to hospital....... Last night she had a knife to her threatening to stab herself if I did not get her alcohol....
I am afraid if I can't make her realise quick she is going to lose her son to his father - who she ran from because he beat her up - and that would be the end of her...........
Please someone let me know how to help her before it is too late and she loses the one thing in her life that means the world.....
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
I wish I could give you great hope, but the court case is so close, and she seems so far away from it all.
To stand half a chance she must reach out for help, if a judge sees this he may direct differently.
Problem is the judge may direct niether way and the child is put into care, I have seen this, and I have seen people get the children back but its a very long way to go.
My first port of call would be a doctor, she needs profesionals behind and she needs the court to see that she is preapared to seek help, a visit to the doctor puts this down in Black and white that she has been, from there, rehab, detox, counselling and of course the AA to name just a few, surprisingly there is a hell of a lot of help in the UK if one reaches out to find it, but its not coming to her she has to go and find it.
You sound like a super friend, but whats the old saying you can take a horse to water, well I am afraid that is what you are up against here, hopefully she may pull herself round, hopefully the penny will drop, but there is no real way of forcing that, just keep trying to make her see sense.
Of course she must be sober on the day, the judge is more interested in the child not the parents arguing over the child, so even the boyfriend may not achieve what he sets out for, thats the dange I see.
I am sorry not bring great words of wisdom, but the situation is highly complex, the best thing you can do is give your continued support and our prayers will stay with you
Good Luck
At the end of the day why should she lose her son if she is poorly which she is... she needs help and surely someone can see that and help here.... what do I have to do ... wait for her to kill herself..... all I need is to protect her from losing her son.... surely there is a way for me to do that which will give me the time to try my damndest to help her dry out and realise.....
I feel so useless not knowing how to help her and the police, ambulance and doctors I feel have failed her and are making it even more sure that she will end up losing her son.....