be honest. forthright. take them to alateen or alatot or a.a. and as a mother- do not drink. no matter what. there would be no greater gift you could give your children. take care of yourself- the rest will fall in line. love, devonh

I don't know anything about breaking patterns. I believe I was born an alcholic and it was part of God's plan as I am helping other people like me today. So far this disease has been linked throughout my family. My niece who is only 20 has progressed very rapidly. The best thing I can do is lead by example in the program and pray for the people in my family. There is something biblical about sins of the father past down (but that's a whole other discussion). You can be the big book that your family members read as my niece is (hopefully) following my lead in recovery... Attraction not promotion. I'll be praying for you & your family.

thank you for your input, it is very helpfull

I think it's important to take into consideration moderation. By no means should you encourage any behaviors but to avoid them may simply cause a greater allure. Education is important and open, honest discussions with people you care about are the best ways to cope with issues. No one is perfect and is shows true strength and character to admit your faults but to also show you've grown stronger from them.