Wow, that is a great question for your sponsor! Keep searching and the truth will be revealed!

Jesus said, I am the Way the Truth and the Life. Truth must be right. Brutal honesty is sometimes hurtful. Look to the Truth for you answers. Carol XX

"EXCEPT - - - when to do so would INJURE them or OTHERS." Honesty with ourselves is hard for most of us at ANY time, especially so when were still new and trying to decipher what our "honesty" really is - - -as HopeandGrowth suggested, a GREAT topic to discuss with your sponsor. I would only suggest you discuss it BEFORE any major "revelations" to anyone as opposed to after! :) Good Luck and welcome ! Rusty22

AGREE WITH LAST ANSWER ,TALK TO YOUR SPONCER ,DONT JUMP IN AT THE DEEP END ,WE HAVE TO BE HONEST WITH OUR SPONCERS ,AND THEY ARE GREAT SOUNDING BOARDS

I was making a bit of a joke there. I was never rude, mouthy, or mean spirited toward others drunk. I could see through the mask and many times had talks with other drunks about those walls we put up. Like it isn't the people who appear as crazy that will hurt you. It's the ones who don't. I got tired of all the depression drama in bars, clubs, etc...I deeply sensitive to other people. A lot of what I was trying to kill off with alcohol.

That part is very true that I really don't know who I am or what the truth is about me. So, I can't confess or attest to what I don't know.

It is like listening to the missing pieces of myself talk here and at AA. The puzzle isn't complete, not even started, but all the pieces are there.

I tried to be rigorously honest.. but let me tell you a story about it.... my GF at the time went to the beauty saloon to get her beautiful hair done for a Christmas party... our first one in sobriety together.... when she walked through the door and asked my with I thought of her new Hairdo... I was as rigorously honest as honest could be...... I slept in the car for the next three nights.....and to this day I still say she looked like a French Poodle...... you be the judge as to the answer to your question.

wow, this is a good question, for me and me only. It was the getting honest with myself.That was very un-familiar to me. After that, with the help of my sponser and AA meetings, working the steps. Honesty for me, was a huge burden lifted from the heavy load I carried with me for so long. So now when I'm not feeling right, one of the first things I look at In myself is...Are you being completely honest with MYSELF ?and the rest seems to fall into place.

my sponsor told me to be rigorously not ridiculously honest. devonh

I think honesty is the best part of anyones character. Through being honest with myself. I have learned how to deal with people and situations which would otherwise cause an emotional response. Usually me getting angry. I learned what my boundaries are through working steps and not drinking one day at a time. I think you are doing great and have the right idea. Keep it up:)

more will come in time. no honesty no sbriety but it takes a while to get there