I had a GREAT day yesterday. I had to go to court and appear before the judge to be sentenced for a DUI that I got in July. As some of you might know, my husband has had major health issues the last year and he needs me to care for him. He has lost both of his legs and four fingers due to diabetes. The surgeries were so close together that he hasn't had a chance to totally recover from any of them. The nights are when he needs me most. He has prosthetic legs but of course doesn't wear them at night so he needs my help at least three times through each night if he needs to urinate or if he needs a pain pill as he can't use his hands very well since he only has three fingers on each. Anyway, back to my sentencing. I know I was stupid and I deserve whatever I get but jail time is mandatory in this area and I just couldn't figure out how me being in jail for even one night could work. At first when my case was called the judge specifically said, "ask for anything but don't ask for no jail time. I never give anyone that pleads guilty of DUI a break on jail time." Well I was holding back tears and my lawyer tried to explain the situation but the judge just cut him off. Then he said that I needed an alcohol evaluation and I told him that I had already gotten one. He didn't have a copy so my lawyer gave him his. He read the eval and in it it talks about what I have been going through this last year with my husband. Guess what? He softened! He gave me the usual lecture about drinking and driving and I humbly agreed with everything he said and then he allowed my to be under house arrest. I have never been so thankful! I know it sounds silly but it's true. The point of my post is that had I not been sober, it's been 29 days, I don't think this would have happened. I know from a few years ago when I attended AA meetings regularly and was sober for 8 months, that it changes more than just your drinking habits. Letting your higher power take control and giving up the fight to have everything your own way makes for a better person all around. I have always said that the AA way is a good way to live for everyone. Even non-alcoholics could benefit from what the big book tells us. Although I have two years of supervised probation, a fine, a 180 day license suspension and 10 days house arrest, I am very greatful to God for sparing me from having to spend even one night in jail and leaving my husband to fend for himself.
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