Oh my God you guys, my 161/2 yr old son has been talking to this girl for like six months now on the phone and internet and says he is in love with her and she is in love too. He says he wants to move to texas to be with her when he turns 17 because that's the legal age in texas because she is 21. I haven't known long that she's 21 and that has bothered me and I've been so worried about him and trying to tell him he should stay here until he's 18. I didn't want to just break it off becuase he's in love. Well my mom did a search on the girl because we got a hold of her name and address and all. and guess what? she's a married woman who's 46, in the process of a divorce with two kids. My son says he's known about this for a while now but didn't want to tell me for fear I'd end it. He says he's still loves her and wants to go be with her. She moving out and getting a job and her own place and her kids are staying with the father. my mom talked to her onthe phone a couple times yesterday and says she sounds real nice and she wants the best for my son and does love him and it started out where they both lied to each other about their age but then told the truth but still wanted to be together. my son is brainwashed I think. He says he really loves her and has seen pictures of her and age doesn't matter. I'm freaked out, not sure how to handle this. I don't want to hurt him. I don't know what to think or do. maybe take him off computer but then he'll go nuts. I'm gonna get him into counceling with my councelor. He says he doesn't want to talk aobut her though because she'll get into trouble and go to jail. I don't think the councelor would do that,c all the police and all. I don't really know what this woman melinda talks to him about. I haven't seen pictures of her. I haven't been able to control my son at all and haven't been there much because of my drinking. I feel so guilty like he has turned to this woman for the love and security that he's been missing. I feel I failed him. I want to fix things. I want to be there and protect him and make the right choices for him. What do I do? just cut him off from her or slowly do it. talk to her myself and tell her to slowly distance herself. can I trust she will. maybe I can threaten to call the police if she doesn't stop talking to him. I don't know. I"m so lost. this really hurts me. he says to not worry, that he's fine, he doesn't care about the age and all. he still wants to be with her and if it doesn't work out he'll come back home to wisconsin. God she's got him wrapped around her finger. He has been homeschooled the past year so has been on computer alot and I had no idea how much he's been talking to this woman and how lost in her he's gotten. I"m gonna tell him I want to see all the pics of her. I have her email and home address and phone number. what do I do? ugh! I feel like I"m such a bad mom to allow this to go on. I just found out yesterday her real age. I have to end it don't I? I've been so messed up lately, relapsing and all, going to aa trying to get better myself. I don't know if I can handle all this.
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