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Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

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I wound up talking to my daughter until after midnight last night. She is pregnant with my first grandchild. I didn't want to tell her about me joining AA and getting sober. Well, she knew something was different. She says, Moooom, have you been sooober? I don't like to share struggles with my children. She has enough to worry about with the bun in the oven. Well, she was thrilled about it! I thought she'd be upset and I did apologize for all the times I was drunk. I was not a lousey parent. Drinking is no excuse for being a lousey parent. I go the other way on that issue too that it gives nobody a right to take children away from addicts. One has nothing to do with the other. Child abuse/neglect has nothing to do with addiction. She said she was only in fear for my life, not that I was a bad parent. She really didn't think I'd quit and she had been thinking I may not live long enough to be a grandmother, a very good grandmother or not. Ya know, if there is a reason to stay sober it is that I will get to know and see my grandbaby grow up, just like my daughter. With the added bonus of with any hope (s)he will never see me drunk. Maybe I will meet my great grandchildren if I stay sober too.
She said it brings a whole new meaning to baby steps. lol, I thought that was so cute.
She said it brings a whole new meaning to baby steps. lol, I thought that was so cute.
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That really gets to me. Not just a drunk but as a cop for over 25 years, I can tell you from experience most child molestors, abusers, and neglectors of the eggregious crimes against children do not drink, smoke, or swear. They are otherwise nice people and very good with children. Cripes, I would hope so since a good hunter knows his prey. Only the victims see the true face and these people are very good at appearing like Mr. Rogers or Mary Poppins to the world around children. "Projected Neglect" is the most ridiculous term I have ever heard of, like "Pre-crime." One is innocent until proven guilty. My gosh are we ever barking up the wrong tree with horrific cases of child abuse/neglect.
You're not the only one to startle me with telling me that has changed since my retirement. Some of the women at AA have told me children can be removed for being a bad housekeeper. Yeah, most of those cases I worked the criminals were very meticulous about cleaning up crime scenes and evidence. Good golly.
No, in fact, I have seen many addicts not fall into deathly drinking/drugging 24/7 or get help when it reaches that point in order to continue to be there on a daily basis for their children.
Ok, so she is not a baby, but she is still my baby. I would die for her. I must seriously question what kind of a mother would do this to her daughter? I'm surprised she is not willing or has not educated herself on alcoholism and drug addiction. My daughter got a UTI infection once and I became a make shift urologist over that. I would do anything to help her.
Maybe she wants a chance to make it up but she doesn't get to be a mother all over again. She can be a good grandmother and a mother to you now. Trying to rewrite history has never worked out very well. Yeah, someone gets written out and into the story that becomes a lie. She is not her mother and can never be her mother. You are her mother and she should support you in being her mother, in being there everyday. Your mother got that chance when you were little and blew it with you. That isn't your fault and you should not be made to suffer for her mistake.
I would start up a grass roots about no respect for mothers. The way your mother is treated and the way you talk to your mother determines much about a child's relationships later in life. That psychologists know to be a fact. This is just plain wrong to be teaching children to fear their parents in any form. Fear teaches hate. Mother is name for God on the hearts and lips of all children.
I want my Mommy.
Hang in there, hon.