ur not whinning, ur expressing ur feelings-theres a big diff (i think). i understand the whole $ thing. it can make things so much harder than they sometimes already r! but u an i both kno what would happen if u did stop in that liq. store. then ud really hava reason to WHIN 2marrow, cuz ud hate urself all over again, an have undone alot of what im certain was very hard work. at least we live in a place where we r ABLE to take our children to a dentist, some ppl dont even have that opportunity, ya kno? even if we cant really afford whats needed :( try n focus on how far u have come. and u will find that when we r doin what we r supposed to b doing, that things someway, somehow seem to work themselves out. give it an extra prayer, i will for u as well. good luck, and God Bless!

Yeah, a meeting might not be such a bad idea. I've been humbled at meetings many times. I've gone in feeling sorry for myself and left realizing how lucky I am.

I know in your heart you know what you have to do. I am completely sympathetic to financial problems...and then there's life on life's terms. Talk to a few Orthodontists, see what they say and what they're willing to work out. What's your definition of a halfway decent Christmas? Is it being able to buy the designer purse for your daughter, or is it being able to appreciate the beauty in life and how insignificant our problems are.

Don't get me wrong, I am by no means trying to patronize you or downplay what's upsetting you...I'm just encouraging you to think outside yourself. I hope I've been helpful.

I was in therapy a few years back and the therapist didnt believe in triggers. she says ppl use that as a cop out. Remember people,places and things can't get you drunk,only you can get yourself drunk.

I am sooo sorry to hear about the situation you find yourself in but I am glad you didn't pick up a drink....Go to a meeting!!!! and you know where to find me later if you still feel the urge...I will be here for you so let the venting begin ;') *you know what to do so keep doing it

Finance the bug bear of life, but today you have done a great thing, you have not resorted to alcohol, whic as we all know will make our finaces worse.

The wisdom of not having drink in the home is a good one, why put temptation right in your face.

Just give it all some time, can your daughter wait till after Xmas, I know its needed, but it sounds as though you may need to prioritise on this one.

Sounds as though your all fighting together, I lost my business to, but the one big thing that is making things better is my not drinking,it never ever makes it worse.

Problem with us alcoholic's is that we always want everything now, learning it does not always work that way is a bloody awfull thing, but learn we must.

Hang in there, your sponsor will call, have a chat, and give your self a pat in the back for not picking up a drink.

Trickey

When I started itemizing my finances and reolized the money I was pending on booze it was shocking. I can only buy what i could drink in a night without getting sick...I guess a system I worked out to not loose my job...wow it adds up...especially when it just a bunch of those little bottles. Me and my husband can spend like 400$ in a month. What a friggen waste! Entering each individual day into my Quicken is another reinforcer to stay off the booze.

Ya, I figure I spent about $8/day on average on alcohol. For three days of alcohol I can buy one of the Hallmark candles that I like and it lasts much longer than 3 days.

Well, you did drive past, didn't you? It's so easy just to stop the car and go in, but you didn't. You need to feel good about that, I know I do when I manage to do it!! It is hard not to worry about finances, and it always comes right before xmas. Hang in there, you will make it through.