im sorry but i put meetings and my not drinking before ALL i went to any length to get a drink i now go to any length to not drink a have the better life im not saying get out of there but

I had to leave my husband so I wouldn't drink. I managed to stay with him and stayed sober for over 9 years of 24 hrs. His drinking just got worse. I cannot get anyone else sober because I am too close and cannot be objective. He is now on hospice for liver disease but everytime he gets the chance he somehow gets a bottle. I can no longer live in that situation and stay sober myself. The first night I stayed in my own appartment I felt like I had been let out of jail.

My advice - do whatever it takes to help yourself.

Alcoholism is such a sad disease. It effects everyone it touches. You have love and support here no matter what you do. Love Okiegirl

get out... get away... stay away...

I completely agree with JustAnotherDrunk: get out now! Dealing with such a huge problem takes way to much energy to have to battle with someone who should be supportive.

You've got to do what is best for you, everyone else be damned. It sounds selfish and mean, maybe, but you've got to protect and nurture yourself before you can begin to help anyone else.

Take care of yourself 1st. You can't control someone and you'll pull your hair out trying. The best way to make someone change is by leading by example. By taking care of yourself 1st, you'll be setting the kind of example that people look up to. A rock in a storm. OC's are very addictive, just 3 straight days of using and I'm hooked. I hope he doesn't have a habit, if he does then he'll have to get clean before he can even try staying clean. The eyes are a dead giveaway. Those small pinpoint pupils and sunken in eyes give people away everytime. Don't listen to what his lips are saying, what are his actions and how does he look? Trust your instincts.

i have severe ptsd as well. trauma from childhood, rapes, being battered by an abuser etc. except for the childhood thing, all were due to alcohol in some way. putting myself in situations that endangered my life. i get up very early due to ptsd- i was raped at knifepoint sleeping in a hotel room bed. i was notorious for wandering around foreign cities by myself and thus found myself a crime victim many,many times.i got mugged so regularly i couldn't even tell you that number.make your sobriety first because you may have to forge a life of your own later on. oxycontin is what they call "hillbilly heroin" and yes, i know about that. it is highly addictive and if hubby doesn't want help, one of you needs to step up to the plate. our disease gets worse, never better. i wish you luck. i care.devonh

"Get you F'n a home now!" "Im the KINg of this castle and I say no more meetings!"

Never, ever allow yourself to be spoken to like this. There is no respect for you in these words. Apoligies mean the offense won't be repeated, and you imply thats not the case.
He may need your leaving to wake him up. You have to think of yourself first.

PLEASE START LITTLE PROJECTS IN YOUR HOUSE AND FOR GOD'S SAKE IGNORE HIM ABOUT THE MEETINGS, I DO THINK HE IS JEALOUS BECAUSE HE CAN'T CONTROL YOU ON THIS ONE. ALL YOU CAN DO IS KEEP VERY LITTLE MONEY ON YOU AND KEEP TALKING ABOUT THE BANK BALANCE JUST SO HE KNOWS YOU ARE KEEPING A WATCHFUL EYE ON IT!!! IT'S YOUR TURN TO YELL THEN!! LOL!!