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Does my husband have a drinking problem?

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Me and my husband have been together for 4 years. We have drank together this whole time. I am more of a social drinker. I may drink 2-4 times a month. Like if we go out to eat or a group of us gets together. My husband as drank every day. At first it was a 12 pack a night, when I asked him to quit he started drinking less, now maybe 3-8 beers a night. We've been having some problems, we recently had our first child and it has added some stress to our relationship. The past 3 times he's drank alot he has said mean things to me that hurt my feelings. I don't want that to start up again so I told him that I wanted us to quit drinking completely. So he wants to drink even less but still not quit. Yesterday he came in and I could tell he had already started drinking. But acted as if the beer he opened was his first one. I found out today that he drank the whole way home from work and then lied to me when I said something to him about it. I feel like he as a problem. He says he don't he just don't want to quit. His grandpa was an alcohlic and died from passing out on train tracks and getting ran over. I fear he my get worse and be like his grandpa. Do you think he has a problem or am I just putting to much into it?
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Lieing about drinking is definately a sign of alcoholism.He had a grandpa that was alcoholic,alcoholism is a family disease.He is showing signs of a problem.Remember to take care of yourself and don't focus on the alcoholic too much,it just makes things worse. the alcoholic already feels bad about himself,so just more stress we have a tendency to go over the deep end. For yourself you can find an alanon meeting,they can tell you what or what not to do.
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Good advice from Mike. The best thing you can do for yourself and your husband is go to alanon. They will be able to help you through this and you will meet people who understand and relate to what you are going through. You will make new friends.
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You believe he is the problem. Well, from my point of view, that of a sober member of AA, I also Know he is the problem.

Sad thing is that you can't make him get sober. Your love won't work, neither will threat of losing his job, or jail, or health. He has to want to get sober before he even has a small hope in hell of doing that.

Make a decision for yourself and maybe the shocking thought of losing his wife and children might, and I mean might, help him decide to want to want to be sober.
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good advice you have to look after you i am a sbermember of AA my family tried to make me sober for years but it was only when i was sick and tired of being sick and tired thati took the first step through the doors of AA my chidren go to ALO-NON and have said it is the best step they ever took for them selfs you have tolook after you .YOU CANT DO FOR HIM WHAT HE WONT DO FOR HIMSELF XX
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He has a problem. What you need to do is get to Alanon. They will help you deal with him. Otherwise you get dragged down too. Try them.
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