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My addictions counsellor has reported me to Child Protection Services and they want to meet with me. I am reeling as I see this as a HUGE betrayal of trust.
I am a single mom with a 14 year old son. We have discussed in therapy what would happen if he were to become hurt or take ill while I was drinking and I assured her I have neighbours who would step in to drive us to the hospital etc.
I suspect this is a move to force me to give up drinking. I have cut back signifigantly and no longer drink and drive but my counsellor has expressed concerns that with the cut back I am no longer experiencing the negative consequences of drinking and so she feels it is holding me back from decisively quitting. I don't think she is correct at all in this matter. It IS my intention to quit HOWEVER being forced into it was never part of my plan!
I feel deeply betrayed by my counsellor. She has brought the topic up in therapy and wondered aloud if my son was safe but I see her EVERY week and she DID NOT mention she had reported me(they have been trying to reach me for over a week).
At this very moment I have a call into my counsellor to blast her for this. I can't imagine how I can continue to work with someone that allowed me to be blind-sided like this. This changes EVERYTHING and I am afraid will set back my attempts at recovery BIGTIME.
I am a single mom with a 14 year old son. We have discussed in therapy what would happen if he were to become hurt or take ill while I was drinking and I assured her I have neighbours who would step in to drive us to the hospital etc.
I suspect this is a move to force me to give up drinking. I have cut back signifigantly and no longer drink and drive but my counsellor has expressed concerns that with the cut back I am no longer experiencing the negative consequences of drinking and so she feels it is holding me back from decisively quitting. I don't think she is correct at all in this matter. It IS my intention to quit HOWEVER being forced into it was never part of my plan!
I feel deeply betrayed by my counsellor. She has brought the topic up in therapy and wondered aloud if my son was safe but I see her EVERY week and she DID NOT mention she had reported me(they have been trying to reach me for over a week).
At this very moment I have a call into my counsellor to blast her for this. I can't imagine how I can continue to work with someone that allowed me to be blind-sided like this. This changes EVERYTHING and I am afraid will set back my attempts at recovery BIGTIME.
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I do understand how you could take what she has done as a confidence break,but im sure she is just doing her job.Good Luck xx
and i would swich counclers as soon as u can
Energy is adrenalin, no good or bad judgment to it. It's your choice as to what you do with that energy. You can use it by being mad at your counselor and creating the circumstances that will set back YOUR recovery big time. Or you can use it to make that final decision to quit. Why don't you want to quit? What positives are you getting out of it? Do you get more or less attention? Are you able to miss work and go riding? What is your reward?
Think of it this way, when you quit, you will be able to save your money and make a trip to sunny Florida! I love and miss you!
later gator!
You say it was worse 6 months ago and she didn't call then, I'm sort of thinking you said something to her that she felt gave her reason to do that. Maybe not deliberately, or maybe you thought you were getting over on her (that's what we do). Why don't you wait and see what she has to say when you confront her?
I had a (now former) neighbor who I called on too. She was so mad she didn't speak to me for 2 years. I gotta tell you though, when I did call it wasn't an isolated incident; there was a long history that led me to the phone call. A lot of that history was her dumping her 4 boys on us and disappearing. When I called she had been yelling to her youngest (then 5 years old) that she was going to leave without him, and she did. She didn't just drive around the block to scare him, she was gone a good 20 minutes.
She had every excuse, 'I thought he was hiding in the van, I knew there were people around to watch him...etc'
When she finally did talk to me about it, she tried to say that that would be like her seeing me with a bottle and telling people she saw me drinking when I wasn't (I nipped that in the bud too).
Just one more thing, you implied in your posting that if you drank over this it would be her fault.....you know that's not the case.
Best wishes to you in your recovery, and your relationship with you counselor.
Love ya! And I'm still here for you.
Trust is necessary. I have always believed to trust yourself first. Deep down we all know when we start crossing those invisible lines. Sometimes we tell people things that we know are going to raise red flags because we can't raise those flags ourselves. The unconscious will speak for the conscious.
I remember one time with my brother. He had been in rehab for 6 weeks (his 5th time) and my parents, my son and I went to see him the day after he was released. He smelled so bad that I could easily tell he'd been drinking all night. But, I was also tired of Mom crying, so I lied and joked about the awful scents they create for men. (Musk was popular then.) That was the last time I lied about it. I did however, neglect to tell my parents about all the times he called me when drunk asking for money. I never had any to give. He calls me the Ice Princess to this day. It hurts, but I still love him.
What does this have to do with trust? My thought is that it is all these "parent/child" relationships we have. I lied to protect my parents. My parents would be very hurt if they knew. In counseling, the parent to the therapist is the law. The law won't be hurt, the enforcers of the law will simply process them as another bad apple.
Sorry this got so ramble-y. It is still a conundrum for me. To me the bottom line is trust yourself.
My response was from a perspective that also saw the reporting system abused. If a child is truly in danger, than a report should be filed. I had too many experiences with parents filing reports on each other and using the child as a weapon. That is simply wrong.