I couldn't get ahold of my friend Joseph yesterday, his phone message center was full and it made me wonder if he and or his mom was ok. I called his GF and left her a message asking about him. Joseph has relapsed many times, when I joined AA he had 10 months sobriety. I now have 13 months and Joseph is about to hit 2 months. Joseph finaly called yesterday evening and told me that his GF kicked him out over a joke picture a friend had sent him of a females anatomy, he played it off as a silly thing to fight over. We talked a bit more about his work and AA and he hung up. Shortly after his GF called Shawney was upset and told me a much different story of lies, drinking, and sneaking around behind everyones back. She told me she had thought about drinking over this. We talked a while and I finaly got her to see her part in all this. She was pissed when I first told her she was an enabler. She figured Joseph would change for her, and she had high expectations about it all. I asked her if she had talked to her sponsor about this and she said no. Why not?? She admitted she was hoping for a different outcome than the last time, and she wanted what she wanted. I told her she needed to fire her sponsor because she was a stupid bitch. Shawney got defensive of her and told me that she was her friend and couldn't do that. I asked her then why can't you take your problems to her? what is wrong with her?? Shawney admitted that nothing was wrong with her sponsor, but lots was wrong with herself. Shawney told me I was a sonofa bitch and she loved me for it. She hung up to call her sponsor and I went to worry about Joseph. I called my sponsor and asked his advice. He asked what I thought I should do. I told him my thinking and he said good plan do it. I'm not going to call him on his shit. I will talk to him and let him know I am there for him when he needs me. The 12 steps let me walk through problems, maybe I can help him walk through his.
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