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Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

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I have a friend in AA who has about 30 days more than I and I only have 60ish. Well she says she doesn't trust anyone else and wants me to be her sponsor which I told her was impossible but I would always be happy to help her if I can.
Well I got a call last night and she was in a rage and said she was getting ready to leave and get something to drink. Since I had almost the same experience a few days before that (less the rage) I did have some ammunition. I got her anger down to about a level 7 so she was at least coherant enough for me to actually talk with her. I gave her all the advice that my sponsor gave me. That showed me that our HP was guiding us because a few days later I did not any tools to help her through.
Thanks HP
Well I got a call last night and she was in a rage and said she was getting ready to leave and get something to drink. Since I had almost the same experience a few days before that (less the rage) I did have some ammunition. I got her anger down to about a level 7 so she was at least coherant enough for me to actually talk with her. I gave her all the advice that my sponsor gave me. That showed me that our HP was guiding us because a few days later I did not any tools to help her through.
Thanks HP
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Wayne-
At this stage of the game, you are very wise to be questioning this person's motives. I became better able to help others only after helping myself.
I needed others within a month or three sobriety of me, just to talk to. You sound like a good friend.
I know this there is nothing like watchin a fellow alcoholic when you meet them who is suffering from untreated alcoholism begin to work with me in the steps and I get to wacth them begin to have hope, To see thier livese get recreated and to see them begin to take others thru the steps it fills my heart with joy. To see the spiritual malady that had a hold of them get removed what a gift that is to witness in another of gods kids. Thats my exp as a recovered alcoholic who has been sober since 2001.
I have a real problem with the "One Year Rule" in AA, as it is unequally applied. However, sponsoring someone after four months of dryness seems like rushing it big time.
There are MANY other things you can be to someone as a "fresh start." You can even study the Big Book and go through the steps with other recovering drunks, but as equals. If you study alongside someone, instead of "teaching them," you are more apt to gain deeper knowlege. It also gets rid of the whole "you know more than them" mystique.
Wayne-
I think it's great that you can help her and be a good friend. Just be mindful of the situation and cautious putting your own sobriety first.