As I mentioned in my earlier post I am doing a step 4 on my relationship with my husband. My sponsor instructed me to use the columns in the BB - person, cause, how it affects me. I did some poking around on the web and found some worksheets that go into much greater detail on the problems with myself. I'm not sure the third column is sufficient. For example, a cause is my husband is gone a lot. This affects my emotional security and self-esteem. I fear he is having an affair and/or doesn't want to spend time with me because he doesn't like me or I'm just not that important to him. Does this sufficiently cover my involvement in the issue or do I need to delve deeper. I don't believe I have done anything to drive him away. He is gone either for work, hobbies, or with friends. He engages in these activities to the same extent on those rare occasions when I am out of town. Is my problem here the fact that I don't accept his absence? If so, is it reasonable to accept a relationship where one partner is gone most of the time? Knowing he doesn't place a high priority on spending time with me is it a logical, rational action to leave him and find someone who does?
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