I'm in AA and working on the fourth step (a searching and fearless moral inventory). One big problem that I have in my life is that I am inconsistent when disciplining my children (11, 14, and 17). I'm sure you can imagine the chaos that results. My sponsor says I need to get this under control because it threatens my sobriety. Of course, I've read the big book (a couple times) and about how self-centered alcoholics are. I thought, ok, maybe I am a little. As I was driving the other day I started thinking - what character defect would cause me to be inconsistent in my discipline? Suddenly, it hit me, selfishness. I don't want to bother with the discipline so I allow them to run amuck. I want to do what I want and not bother with them. It seems obvious but it hit me all of a sudden. I really *am* self-centered. Now I'm off to try and fix the problem and, yes, I'll pray about it :-).
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