ok, the general consensus is the 12 step program of recovery is the way to go. i have mixed feelings about that these last few years. the years since i began seeing lots of hypocrisy and contradictions, from people i completely put my trust in and others who claim the 12 steps is the absolute only way to recover from addiction, but, i am interested in feedback from the die hard 12 steppers that are still out there: according to the revered 12 step program, resentments are of our own making, and when bad things happen to us, we're the ones at fault for those resentments; reference: aa big book: "we ourselves are the ones who started the ball rolling". so, what about events that we didn't cause to happen? for instance, i am nursing one hell of a resentment because my wallet was stolen right out of my house with my license, mine and my daughter's social security cards, mine and my daughter's cash aid cards and 3 lousy dollars. i have an idea who did it, and yet, according to the 12 steps, my wallet being stolen was my responsibility and i need to take responsibility for an action someone else took. someone please explain to me, how does that make any sense? or are you going to say it's my fault because i allowed my wallet to be stolen? well, as for that one, excuse the hell out of me! i guess i stupidly assumed my daughter, myself and our possessions were safe within my own four walls. the reason i sound angry, is, again, I AM ANGRY. me and mine were violated and regardless of what the 12 steps dictate, it's ok to feel anger and resentment when the conduct of another has caused that feeling in you. thank you for allowing me the "priviledge" of sharing on a mostly 12 step board.
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