Alcoholism Support Group
Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.
I have been sober for 9 1/2 months and so very happy with my new way of life. Problem:I have receintly become very friendly with anoher women that I feel I have alot in common with. The last few times I have talked on the phone with her she has been drunk. I am not judging her at all, she can do as she wishes, but I am not comfortable talking with someone while thay are drunk. This has happened the last 4 times I have spoken with her. The first time ,I asked her (the next day) if she had been drinking, and she said yes.( I was glad she was honest) But she seems to do this every nite. She says things she does not remember and when I see her next day, she acts as if nothing ever happened. I dont care what she does in her free time, but I dont want to be a part of it. What do I say when I see her the next day and she is so normal again. Again, I really am not judging her in any way, I just dont want to be a part of her drinking problem. I am still working on keeping my self sober. I dont want to deal with anyone elses stuff. How do I handle this when I see her at work and she is all buddy buddy again? .
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
This is not an ideal situation you are in. What ever you do; don't let this ruin what you worked so hard for. You know step 1 being honest with yourself. Well you need to be honest with your friend. You may not like what you hear but she has to hear how you feel.
Let her know how her drunkiness is affecting you.
Ps talking to someone drunk really sucks.
Iwould talk to her and just tell her you aren't comfortable talking when she is drunk.
As for the friend. Like the other folks said, being honest is being the best friend to her.
I wonder if she's really looking for help through you. The first step is a tough one. I know I told a friend or 2 that I had a drinking problem before I faced myself in the mirror and faced my personal shame. If your the hand of AA for your friend then don't shut the door on her but make sure you get some sage advice from some old timers about sponsorship. It's a program of attraction. You might be her magnet. Just remember the wet ones are the slippery ones that can pull you down.