Alcohol Recovery Without 12 Steps Community Group

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Need to Vent instead of Drinking

deleted_user
deleted_user
Hiya (I post in 2 groups so if you have seen this elsewhere please ignore)

My mother has never been the easiest person to get on with. As many of you know, my Dad died just over three years and I have done my best to support her on so many issues (not just relating to my dad). My drinking started the day after his dying.

For some reason today, she telephoned and said I never bothered calling her since my dad's death. That is not true, She has given all my three sisters money occasionally as they were not short of money. It has always been gratefully received and generally it has been spent taking my family on holiday etc. Each of my sisters received the same amount.

It sounds wrong to say I am grateful that I have six days sobriety under my belt because right now I am feeling a drink would help calm me down. I do not want to do this so the likelihood of this happenening is almost 0. I never felt migraine would be a positive to suffer but for the last two days I have had one continuously. It was too bad to get myself to a meeting so I am doing what I believe is the next best thing.

Sorry to vent but I would rather vent than drink.

Take care of yourselves and each other.

Ruth x
Group FounderJanMichelle2002
JanMichelle2002
I saw the post a couple of different places, but of course I prefer to respond here. You've come to the right place for venting. Don't ever be afraid to do it here.

Six days, Ruth! You go girl! I'm proud of you. Hopefully you'll feel well enough to get to that Women's Group meeting soon! It sounds like maybe that one will be good for you.

I'm just curious, at your first meeting (at the Women only one), did anyone mention getting a sponsor and working the steps? I always think it kinda crazy when people here do that to a newbie. Hardly have both feet in the door and their all on about that.

I know you're starting out more for the social contact, and I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Just do what feels right for you, and don't let anyone tell you where you should be at in your recovery. Who knows where it will lead.

I do wish you could get some counselling to talk about your dad, and all the related issues. I know moneys an issue, but please keep searching for something you can afford.

Until then, vent away here!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Family problems for me became so much more clear as I got sober ruth. I was able to handle things that before overwhelmed me. Your mom sounds lonely and angry perhaps-and is putting this on you. Be strong, stay focused on you. Not everyone around us helps out in our quest to be sober. I found lots of people trying to sabotage it, in fact. Just keep boundaries, xoxoxo
lennie61
lennie61
Venting is goos it is muchbetter than having a drink.

Well done
deleted_user
deleted_user
Vent away.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Ruth it's better to vent and be sober than the alternative. When I first quit I vented a lot, I did not feel comfortable in my own skin or around people who suck, and everyone sucked at first. The farther you go in your sobriety the easier it gets. Get a sponsor when you want to, work the steps when you feel up to it. People suggested it to me but no one pressured me, except one person and I got back in his face, and he left. I feel much more able to handle life after having started working the steps, for me it puts things in perspective. Take your time and when your ready go for it. If you have been reading my first journal entries you notice what a mess I was. Hugs Randy
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