As an ACOA, it is difficult for me to trust others and I am finding it very hard to keep friends. Sure, I make friends easily, but it seems like as soon as I find myself getting closer to the person, I detach. I have stopped speaking to several friends in the past over small issues that I now realize were not important. It seems like I only give the person a couple of chances to "burn" me. For example, one of my friends, whom I've known for about two years, did not come to my baby shower. I let her know a month in advance when and where the shower was taking place. It meant a lot for me to have her there since I moved over 900 miles away from home and I was only traveling back for a couple of days. She stated that her boyfriend and her had plans that she could not break. What the heck! I haven't spoken to her in over a month now. The way I see it, if I was not important enough for her to break her plans, why should I bother? I just find that it is hard for me to forgive people and continue to be friends with them. I can bury a grudge, but it almost seems impossible for me to continue with the friendship. Does anyone else have this problem?
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