After talking to my ACOA friends of the past, I remember that we all seemed to make knee-jerk decisions. We made decisions in our lives without putting any thought into them. What a mess.
Black & white thinking...all or nothing thinking.
These days I try to step back & think first or say, "Let me think about it" to give myself time to see if it's what I want to do, if it's best for me to do.
Otherwise, I could be setting myself up to fail & feel bad.