I have several family members who are still alcoholics and drug users. One of my aunts is still heavily involved with drugs and prostitution, which has gone on for several years. She has had her children taken away several times as a result. All of her children are adults now, so she is on her own and still using drugs. Anyway, I heard from one of my other family members that while she was visiting this family member's home, she stole $150 out of her purse. Naturally, she denied it, but she was the only other person in the house at the time. I was so angry when I heard this. My family does not like to talk about her being an addict, and it seems like I am the only one who does not try to justify the things that she has done. I understand that she has an addiction, but that is not an excuse to ever steal from your family. It made me even more upset when I heard that my family member allowed my aunt to stay in her home even after she knew that she stole money from her purse. When I called to speak to my family member on the phone, my aunt answered and tried to make small talk, but I wasn't at all interested. Even though she did not steal from me, I still feel angry about it. I guess it's because my own mother used to steal money and clothes from me, and no adult in my life ever did anything about it. I am so angry that no one else in the family thinks that this is a problem. I have a family visit coming up soon, but I don't feel like I have anything to say to my aunt. I have heard of her doing some pretty low things, but this has to be the worst. I am so tired of people denying things and rationalizing her behavior. They look at me like the bad person for not speaking to certain family members, but I have serious trust issues as it is and I don't need to feel like I am opening myself up to be taken advantage of. I know that she needs help, but this is inexcusable!! I always see things as being black or white, and I am afraid that this is another toxic family member that I have to let go of until she gets help. Thanks for letting me vent.
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