When I first found my b mother and we were getting to know each other, I felt such a strong bond with her. We talked alot, learning about each other. It didnt feel right calling her by her first name and I asked if I could call her mom (this was after being in contact for several weeks) She was so excited that I wanted to call her mom, even more excited that I thought of her as mom. Now we have met several times and are spending more time with each other...I'm not feeling the 'mom' thing. She seems more like a friend. Now I dont really feel comfortable calling her mom, yet I still dont think it's right to call her by her name. So Now I avoid calling her anything at all...more like a 'hey you' I know this is a trivial thing but I dont want to hurt her by telling her.'Well once I thought of you as mom but now you're not so I'm gonna call you something else' I'm not even sure how to approach the subject or even if it needs approaching. Any birth mothers please feel free to offer up your opinions, yours are the one's I'm looking for.
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