it took me some time to get my hubby to agree to adopt...ofcoarse we have non kids and struggle with infertility...I put to like look at the good we are doing for someone else, there are so many unwanted kids out there...we can help....good luck to u

Thank you so much for responding to me. I feel lost trying to convice him that I am not ready to not have kids at the house.

Sharon

Could you look into doing something else for yourself that would involve you with children? Maybe volunteer somewhere. Because if your hubby doesn't want to adopt, even if you think you convinced him, they will be able to tell during the home study process. And really you wouldn't be doing anyone a favor (particularly the kids) if you make him do something he doesn't want to do. *Maybe you could try foster care. That way if having the child/children in your home is not working out, you can simply not take anymore placements. Also there is the potential for a child you have to become adoptable and you would then have first choice. That is if hubby's mind is changed through the process and he simply falls in love with the chld/children.

Other than that there has got to be some organizations out there that need a hand with kids. You can help out and still share your love of kids, and hubby can still have a quite peaceful home. Of course if your own children are grown.... maybe grandkids around the corner? :)

My hubby was the same way at first. We had to sit down and really look into our expectation boxes and hash it all out. Our compromise was that I would help him get educated and based on how he felt after the untrue myths were taken care then we would adopt 1 and I would try to have one.

Since then he is all for it. he is really excited about the whole process. It really helped to have a local agency that we walk into and became friends with our social worker.

I noticed (especially in our community) that people are hung up on what they see in the movies and the 1 in a million stories that they hear in the news. Once those myths were taken care of his mind opened up about the idea and why we were doing it.

I would really have a heart to heart with him about why he feels the way that he does. You might be surprised by the underlying answer.

both your hearts should be into it if you want to adopt, otherwise the child WILL feel the resentment from your husband. It's not something to convince someone of...if it's meant to be, then it will happen...

i dont know if this will help, but maybe he would possibly be up to fostering. Maybe that could help the possibility of adoption open up to him.

Have a long talk with him,explain how you are feeling.Let him know,there are alot of kids out there that need loving parents.I have a grandson and granddaughter,both of who were put up for adoption.I was not around when it was done,so I couldn't stop it.But if your husband knows how many kids need a loving home and parents,maybe he will change his mind