My husband gave up his parental rights because the mother wanted to marry another man. (They were both 17 at the time.) Now the child is 15 and knows that my husband is his biological father. My husband views his choice 15 years ago as a huge mistake and is very ashamed. He really wants to form a relationship with his son but is scared of rejection and does not know where to begin. At first he wanted to protect his son and stick to the decision that was made all those years ago. But now that the boy knows about my husband - he feels he must make the first move to open the door to a relationship. We need some insight on how to approach the child and his mother. The relationship between the mother and my husband is not very good - they were teenagers and I guess you could say that the interaction between them at the time was somewhat negative and childish. We are open to suggestions especially from adoptees and maybe even mothers who are in a similar situation. Please help us.
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