Our situation is a bit complicated and I hope that there is someone out there who can relate and offer some advice. My husband has a brother who is an alcoholic and is not showing any signs of growing up and his girlfriend is just about as responsible as he is. They had a son a year and a half ago and since his birth my mother and father in law have had custody. After years of infertility my husband and I were thrilled with the opportunity to adopt our nephew was brought to us. Unfortunatly now I am going to have to share my son. The birth mother, who is a liar and thief and can not be trusted, is insisting on seeing him every weekend whereas before she would go months without seeing him. She starts into a long diatribe about how she is his mother and I am keeping him from her when we arent able to make the time for him to see her. She talks about us behind our back, and when confronted she backpeddls so fast she leaves skid marks. She holds us emotional hostage by claims of stopping this whole process if we dont do things for her. The father is usually in a drunken stupor and he knows he can't come and see our son unless he is sober and makes the plans with us ahead of time. And last week I found out that my mother in law is not 100% behind the adoption. In a momment of weakness and what I took as genuine intrest, I let her in on my feelings of exhaustion and concerns about the mother, and I was greeted with an offer to stop the whole process and that she would take our son back if we couldnt handle it. Has anyone been through a similar situation with a birth mother and how do you handle it. What happened? I'd love to hear your stories.
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