Adoption Support Group

Adoption is the legal act of permanently placing a child with a parent or parents other than the birth parents. Whether you are looking to adopt, putting your child up for adoption, parenting an adopted child, or just thinking about it, this is the place to discuss.

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I know a young lady(17) who is so close to me that she call's me her aunt. Well she has a daughter who is 5 months old and is thinking about letting my husband and I adopt the little girl. I don't know how to go about adopting without going through an agency. Is this something that can be done through a lawyer? I mean if she knows who she want's to have the baby than I would'nt think we would have to go through an agency,,, any information would be great... I live in Montana and she is in my home state of Michigan if that help's,,, Thank's so much
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i would get a lawyer..but yes this can be done without out side adoption agency...just study up and get help..but i am not sure what state you would have to file for it in with you two not being in the same state but the lawyer should be able to tell you...i hope this helps
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Robins right - no agency needed but a lawyer is. They will more than likely require social services to get involved to check the house where the child is going - GL to both of you
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I had a private adoption with my birth daughter.Lawyer definetly.
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You don't need an agency - in fact there is probably nothing they could do for you anyway. Get a lawyer. You will need a home study - no way around that. If the baby is crossing state lines, the home study will have to be completed before you can take custody of the baby. If your friend in still in the decision stage, I would go ahead and start the home study - it takes a while and since the baby will come from another state, the home study will have to be 100% complete before you bring it into your home. So even while she is making her decision go ahead and call an attorney and start the home study. Hey even if she chages her mind - you will still have to have the home study and lawyer if you want to continue to try to adopt a baby from someone or somewhere else.
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Here's my 2cents:

A relative of mine did the exact same thing. Except, the birthmother wanted her baby back and my relative didn't have a leg to stand on because there was no paperwork done.

Sounds like your "friend" want her cake and ice cream. Are you going to raise the child and have the child call you Mom or is the Birth Mother going to pop by to say Hi every now and then and call the baby hers. What are your long term goals with raising the baby.
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