I have worked at Lutheran Social Services and Crisis Pregnancy Center. I never never met a gal that said I can't wait to relinquish. It is an agonizing ordeal. And only the gals very familiar with the welfare system kept, because the workers are very trained in talking a girl into giving up. They are told "If you love your child you will place, this is best for the child and you will get over it" they are very lied to. The number of bio moms and bio children in the mental health system does not reflect population rates. Children are plyable, but by the time they are teenagers they are more reflecting their bio parents talents, mental strengths, and preferences. There actually is a web page for adoptive parents that don't like their children. Kids (at any age)! chances are very very GREAT that your mom loved you so very very much. The birth child is taking from a heartbeat, smell, rythm and sound of voice they have known and given a replacement mom. The birthmom is not given a replacement. They are left with a terrible wound to their heart and told to pretend it didn't happen.
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