Adoption Support Group

Adoption is the legal act of permanently placing a child with a parent or parents other than the birth parents. Whether you are looking to adopt, putting your child up for adoption, parenting an adopted child, or just thinking about it, this is the place to discuss.

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my siste and i are both genatically related.. adopted into the same family.

baby younger sister adopted first... golden child(yet evil)

toddler older sister adopted second (hated)

i am hated by my family.. yet dont know what i did
my sister is supported and loved... dispite being ca horrible person and knocked up by a homeless man

i was abused by my mother and sister my whole childhood...

is this normal
deleted_user
deleted_user
being abused is NOT normal...never has been, never will. There's something wrong and i can't even express to you how sad it makes me to hear you've had to go through this.

Did you say you were a toddler when you were adopted? and older than your sister? I can only hypothesise that the problem stemmed from you being older than your sister at the point of adoption and your adoptive parents therefore finding it harder to relate to you, connect with you, and basically MOULD you to FIT with them.

This is wrong, and they've made a horrible mistake in the way they have treated you. Once again, i'm so sorry for your heartache and i pray that God sends you a blessing and things get better.

Do contact me any time if you feel you need to talk. Love and best wishes. Always and forever. x
deleted_user
deleted_user
yeah.. i kinda need help in this... please help
treetree
treetree
i had a problem of people not being able to relate to me. have you tried to sit down and talk to the parents one at a time without arguing and hightened emotions so maybe they can understand what they're not getting. It might not work or you might have already tried it but the only way through anything is communicationand tolerance and understanding. I also say tolerance because sometimes the generation gap keeps people from understanding you completely. In the end it still only matters how yo make yourself move through the obstacles in life and i wish you well. write me if you need to. I do understand.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I can't help but think that the abuse of adopted children is far from normal. However, it is not uncommon, in families with multiple children for one child to be singled out as "the bad one." This doesn't mean that you were, its just a sick family dynamic. Take care of yourself by getting the help you need to shake off that label. It doesn't belong to you, they put it there.
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