Adoption Support Group
Adoption is the legal act of permanently placing a child with a parent or parents other than the birth parents. Whether you are looking to adopt, putting your child up for adoption, parenting an adopted child, or just thinking about it, this is the place to discuss.
I gave birth to Evan on Oct. 12th. and had made the decision to go with adoption. The pastor and his wife from my mother's church adopted him. They are wonderful people and I know Evan will be raised in a loving home. I was put to sleep during my c-section and asked not to see him at the hospital. I thought this would only make things harder. My mother did get pictures of him, which I still have not looked at. I have two other children but am a single mom and knew I couldn't handle another child right now. But now that I am home the guilt is really eating at me. I don't want my son to hate me for what I chose to do. I am also questioning if this makes me a bad mom. How could I have kept my other two and not him. I love them all 3 so very much. I am just confused and need answers from anywhere right now.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I didn't see him after the birth either. I knew I just couldn't live the next many years with that image in my mind...wanting, wondering. I think it would have made it all worse for me.
You aren't a bad mom!! You are the best mom for doing what is best for your children...all of them!
What do know is that I was able to give the gift of life to another woman who wasn't able to have children. That is where I find peace in my choice, knowing that someone else isn't wanting, wondering what it would be like to be a mother.
I don't know that I have the answers you need at this difficult time but know that you aren't the only one who is dealing with a life changing choice such as this.