Why do you cut yourself?
Did you volunteerily give up your children or did the courts take your baby?

i cut as release..as a way to cope with everythign...in a way according to my dr i am not allowing myself ot let go of the people who hurt me the most. i lost custody when i was in the hospital...and i was given the ultimatum either sign them over or we will do it for you..out of total fear that kate and william would be seperated like me and brother/sister were in foster care....i was promised that they would not move them unless the garands changed thier minds...so i signed the papers. and went to court one last time and it was offical i was no longer considered a mom. i just really dont get it because didnt cut for 4 years when i had my kids and didnt start again til i finally got to go home without being 96ed everytime i turned around..then i started again as a way to cope with being so damned mad at myself for allowing this to happen to my kids after i swore to them that we woudl always be together and nothing could stop it from being there..

I am sure this is a hard time and I have seem posts in teen pregnancy and infant parents (something like that) were there are some women cutting as well. I can't imagine how hurt you must feel to have all this happen to you.

Please talk to someone about the cutting. This is so unhealthy and could cause long term problem if you continue.

I had an eating disorder growing up and believe me now that I am almost 30 I am already starting to feel old. My knees crack all the time, my bones hurt in the winter, etc. You don't think about the affects until after the fact, but believe me there are affects and I don't just mean to yourself.

Please let us know how you are doing and what we can do to help.

i am already in threapy for the cutting issue but i havent had any results in several years. alot of the therapists that i have been to just ask why dont you just stop...why cant you just put down the razor/knife/straightedge/whatever and walk away...and what i need is just someone to help me understand what i did was right and that i am not alone in this which i dont think, what i did with will and kate was right and i feel so alone and actually have been alone for a long time. i really dont have outside support. i never did. this is a support group right? if it isnt then i am in the wrong place

Yes it is a support group, and I am not sure about the cutting because the daughter I gave up 15 years ago strated cutting last year and she swears she doesn't do it anymore, but I am not so sure. Some people will say anything to get what they want and I am sorry about your children. Need to talk I am here.

What is called "open adoption" can vary anywhere from full, loving contact between the birthfamily and the adoptive family, to just once a year letter from the adoptive family to the birthmother. On top of this, there are almost no laws in place to force the adoptive family to uphold their end of the deal.

Ideally, you should be able to work through the agency that placed your children, to regain contact with the adoptive family. Many adoptive couples live in fear of birthparents. Our society portrays birthmothers as people who want to come and steal their children back.

It takes a bit of work on both sides to make an open adoption work well, and all too often the adoptive couple is not prepared, or not willing, to do that work in addition to parenting.

Maybe you can start with some letters to be delivered through the agency?

I lost the discussion for a while. I have been thinking about you and wondering how you are doing.

Yes this is a support group and we will all be happy to help. I am nervous about giving advice on something very person and serious as cutting but still want you to know that I care. Most of us are all hear to hear you out.

Is there a specific event or events that trigger the cutting?

im doing ok i think. my kids are doing wonderful. i registared for college yesterday..so proud iof myself..doing something i never thought possible for me..i really have stuff going for me right now. i am still dreading the next 3 weeks though...

Is there a specific event or events that trigger the cutting? " i cut for a release..its my way of coping when i cant at other times...its also a way for me to have control over something....alot of people that work with me are very controlling so whenever i feel that i am either out of control or i dont have any control then i cut because i control everythign about it....how deep i cut how long it bleeds, how many times...how much it will hurt...

Congrats on going to school! I sacrificed my child to adoption when I was 18 and I regret that I never finished my schooling after making such a sacrifice. She is now 18 and I'm struggling to go back and finish. I really regret not taking out a loan when I was young and getting it done.