
Adoption Support Group
Adoption is the legal act of permanently placing a child with a parent or parents other than the birth parents. Whether you are looking to adopt, putting your child up for adoption, parenting an adopted child, or just thinking about it, this is the place to discuss.

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i am 23 and i ahve given my kids up for adoption 4 years ago...is there anyone out there that has done that and was told in court that it was an open adoption and yet to be able to see your children? my kids are 7 and 5. wonderful and amazing children. i was only 16 when my daughter was born but i chose to keep her..i was 18 when i had my son and i had full custody of both of them untill 2003. i am what is refered to as a "cutter" i have done so since i was 11. i am looking for other parents of children they have let go or even an adoptive family. i want ot nkwo about what kinda struggles that happen daily with kids readjusting and how you help the children through the tough times and how do you tell the children that they cant go home again. even if the parents didnt do anything wrong besides reach out for help with serious depression? i dotn get it all. help!
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Did you volunteerily give up your children or did the courts take your baby?
Please talk to someone about the cutting. This is so unhealthy and could cause long term problem if you continue.
I had an eating disorder growing up and believe me now that I am almost 30 I am already starting to feel old. My knees crack all the time, my bones hurt in the winter, etc. You don't think about the affects until after the fact, but believe me there are affects and I don't just mean to yourself.
Please let us know how you are doing and what we can do to help.
Ideally, you should be able to work through the agency that placed your children, to regain contact with the adoptive family. Many adoptive couples live in fear of birthparents. Our society portrays birthmothers as people who want to come and steal their children back.
It takes a bit of work on both sides to make an open adoption work well, and all too often the adoptive couple is not prepared, or not willing, to do that work in addition to parenting.
Maybe you can start with some letters to be delivered through the agency?
Yes this is a support group and we will all be happy to help. I am nervous about giving advice on something very person and serious as cutting but still want you to know that I care. Most of us are all hear to hear you out.
Is there a specific event or events that trigger the cutting?
Is there a specific event or events that trigger the cutting? " i cut for a release..its my way of coping when i cant at other times...its also a way for me to have control over something....alot of people that work with me are very controlling so whenever i feel that i am either out of control or i dont have any control then i cut because i control everythign about it....how deep i cut how long it bleeds, how many times...how much it will hurt...