
Adoption Support Group
Adoption is the legal act of permanently placing a child with a parent or parents other than the birth parents. Whether you are looking to adopt, putting your child up for adoption, parenting an adopted child, or just thinking about it, this is the place to discuss.

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I need to know if I am going about this wrong or if I am seeing to much into it. You can read my journal and see the story.
I need to know if I just need to back out of my birth daughters life until she is an adult, and we can sit down and talk heart to heart. I am blaming my self that her parents have sent her off to a boarding school, and that she has had some trouble, far beyond what her to siblings have had. Out of the three of them she is the only one that knows and has ever had contact with her bmom. She began cutting herself, and having trouble with her friends at school.
I do know that when I had my little girl 2 years ago she thought that I replaced her. I could never, but I will admitt that my daughter has made a lot more of the days bareable. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of her, but my little girl keeps my days busy and I am not so sad anymore, or wasn't until I found out that she has been sent away.
For some reason that hurt worse then giving her up. Maybe because I can't talk to her and write her or get pictures. AM I being to selffish? All these years I have tried to do what was best for her, but I think I failed at it horribly.
Do I let her go for now and pray that she will still one day return to me, or do I push her parents for answers? I know I don't have the "rights" but in my heart she is and always will be mine.
Any advice would be nice even if it is harsh, maybe that is what I need.
My husband cam ehome from a long day of work and on the counter lay a number to a lawyer, because I want to see what I can do. All he said was it won't do any good. I know that he is more than likely right, but some part of me wants to call him anyway.
thanks Ali
I need to know if I just need to back out of my birth daughters life until she is an adult, and we can sit down and talk heart to heart. I am blaming my self that her parents have sent her off to a boarding school, and that she has had some trouble, far beyond what her to siblings have had. Out of the three of them she is the only one that knows and has ever had contact with her bmom. She began cutting herself, and having trouble with her friends at school.
I do know that when I had my little girl 2 years ago she thought that I replaced her. I could never, but I will admitt that my daughter has made a lot more of the days bareable. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of her, but my little girl keeps my days busy and I am not so sad anymore, or wasn't until I found out that she has been sent away.
For some reason that hurt worse then giving her up. Maybe because I can't talk to her and write her or get pictures. AM I being to selffish? All these years I have tried to do what was best for her, but I think I failed at it horribly.
Do I let her go for now and pray that she will still one day return to me, or do I push her parents for answers? I know I don't have the "rights" but in my heart she is and always will be mine.
Any advice would be nice even if it is harsh, maybe that is what I need.
My husband cam ehome from a long day of work and on the counter lay a number to a lawyer, because I want to see what I can do. All he said was it won't do any good. I know that he is more than likely right, but some part of me wants to call him anyway.
thanks Ali
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