No offense, but be glad you have those! I was promised pictures of my bson(now almost 12) every year and you know the last time I got one??? 1996! I got 2 pictures when he was about 6 months old and THAT WAS IT! There's nothing I can do as the adoption agency shut down and I don't have their address(they would only agree to send them through the agency). While I'm no longer really angry, it really hurts that people can't keep a promise they made in order to get a child(yes, that was one of my stipulations). I feel betrayed to this day.
Melissa

As an adoptive parent to be (hopefully soon!) I have learned thru this support group how important it is to keep your word and make sure the birthparents do get something.

I would write a polite note and just explain that during this holiday season, especially, you would like additional photos if possible.

I would advise against using the word "owed" as this might be taken the wrong way and could have the family become defensive. Just follow your heart and be honest.

Is your relationship with the family thru an agency? If it is you may want their help in wording your letter.

wihtout using the term "owed", I would write the adoptive parents and tell them exactly what you have told us...hopefully they have enough respect for you and your birthchild to give you what you treasure most....good luck ......

I understand what you are saying about the pictures. I did have to write my daughters parents when she was little to send pictures, and they were very polite about it and as you said they got busy with their everday life, and pictures weren't always a part of that. Even though I got the horrible letter two days ago, there were two pictures in it. Just tell them what they mean to you. good luck.

I might offer a different perspective because I am adopted. I was involved in a closed adoption so no pictures, no contact period. It may be okay in your situation to write a letter. However, just remember their feelings too since you let them adopt your child. My mother was terrified that my bio mother would come back and take me.

Mepperly, I hate to hear that! That is very sad and my heart goes out to you. And yes waiting, I would never say "owed" to the family. I just put that in here. And no, the adoption was not done through an agency. Thanks guys.

Mhodges - yeah, I hear adoptive parents say that alot. In fact when I was going through the pregnancy, I had the wonderful and unique experience to have a close friend who had adopted 2 kids of her own help me in finding alot of my resources. So, I got to see alot of her fears everyday. We have signed papers though and signed away all rights to ever petition. We would never do that, and I fully believe in my heart, they know we would never try anything like that.

flutter, you are right that adopted parents know birth parents would never do that, but I have been in contact with my b-mother a little over 2 months and every time I mention her in the presence of my a-mother she makes a comment about me replacing her.. I dont get it. I guess no matter how old we get our parents have that thought in the back of their minds

Medge97 -
Thats a really tough situation. I can imagine and have seen all that adoptive parents go through, and not having them biologically is awful for so many people. Just make sure she knows how much you love her and that no one will ever ever replace her. Thats why it is so important for the adoptive moms/birth parents to communicate if at all possible before the adoption. Not that you can now - but for anyone reading this. Its always a very delicate thing, I think.