I am devastated. I have been so attached to this baby. From the beginning, the sw and the attorney were so optimistic about this situation. They said that she was 100% sure about this, and this had a great outlook. She was in jail at the time, busted for using crystal meth which was a parole violation for a previous crime. She was supposed to go to rehab for a month after jail, but there was no bed for her. So, instead, she went to live under house arrest with her grandmother. Her grandmother is raising bm's first daughter. BM had previously given up parental rights for the girl, the grandmother legally adopted her. So, when she went to live with her grandmother, she was also living with her first daughter. Who found out about the new baby, and got hysterical when bm said she was going to help another family. She basically said, "what about us? I want a baby sister". At that point, the bm knew she probably wouldn't be going through with the adoption plan, and didn't want to lead us on anymore. So, it's over.

I just can't see how it's going to work out. The grandmother doesn't want the responsibility of another newborn. The bm is a 27 year old meth addict, no education, no skills, on parole/house arrest. How is she going to handle raising a baby if she can't even take care of herself? I'm so worried that the baby will end up being taken by the state instead of being safe with us.
Or worse, will be abused or neglected while mom is out partying. I guess the best case scenario is that the grandmother will take over the baby's care. But, how old is the grandmother? I'm talking the BM's grandmother, the great-grand mother of these children. This can't be easy for her.

I am crushed, and don't know how I am going to recover.