
Adoption Support Group
Adoption is the legal act of permanently placing a child with a parent or parents other than the birth parents. Whether you are looking to adopt, putting your child up for adoption, parenting an adopted child, or just thinking about it, this is the place to discuss.

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I am devastated. I have been so attached to this baby. From the beginning, the sw and the attorney were so optimistic about this situation. They said that she was 100% sure about this, and this had a great outlook. She was in jail at the time, busted for using crystal meth which was a parole violation for a previous crime. She was supposed to go to rehab for a month after jail, but there was no bed for her. So, instead, she went to live under house arrest with her grandmother. Her grandmother is raising bm's first daughter. BM had previously given up parental rights for the girl, the grandmother legally adopted her. So, when she went to live with her grandmother, she was also living with her first daughter. Who found out about the new baby, and got hysterical when bm said she was going to help another family. She basically said, "what about us? I want a baby sister". At that point, the bm knew she probably wouldn't be going through with the adoption plan, and didn't want to lead us on anymore. So, it's over.
I just can't see how it's going to work out. The grandmother doesn't want the responsibility of another newborn. The bm is a 27 year old meth addict, no education, no skills, on parole/house arrest. How is she going to handle raising a baby if she can't even take care of herself? I'm so worried that the baby will end up being taken by the state instead of being safe with us.
Or worse, will be abused or neglected while mom is out partying. I guess the best case scenario is that the grandmother will take over the baby's care. But, how old is the grandmother? I'm talking the BM's grandmother, the great-grand mother of these children. This can't be easy for her.
I am crushed, and don't know how I am going to recover.
I just can't see how it's going to work out. The grandmother doesn't want the responsibility of another newborn. The bm is a 27 year old meth addict, no education, no skills, on parole/house arrest. How is she going to handle raising a baby if she can't even take care of herself? I'm so worried that the baby will end up being taken by the state instead of being safe with us.
Or worse, will be abused or neglected while mom is out partying. I guess the best case scenario is that the grandmother will take over the baby's care. But, how old is the grandmother? I'm talking the BM's grandmother, the great-grand mother of these children. This can't be easy for her.
I am crushed, and don't know how I am going to recover.

deleted_user
I'm so sorry for your loss...it really is quite painful I'm sure. Hopefully you can get right back on track and proceed with another adoption. My adoption circumstances were very different, but what does remain the same is that an adoption process in a huge roller coaster ride....but a ride that is well worth it. hang in there....you can do it. I'm available to talk at any time...please feel free...

lav
I am so sorry for your heartache!!!! Don't get dissapointed. There is a child out there that needs a special person like you to love them. Whether they have already been born or have yet to come to this earth, they are waiting for you. Don't give up!! One day you will make a special spirit the perfect mom!!!
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