We adopted our daughter from birth. I used to thumb through - What to Expect During the First Year. It has a special section for the adopted child. Basically, I found that a newborn was a newborn and even though I hadn't given birth to our daughter I found that the information on rashes, teething, sleep patterns, eating habits, etc. all mattered in our case too!

Best of luck with your adoption.

One thing that I have noticed in "the baby book" is the strong opinion of breatfeeding rather then bottle feeding. The book goes into pros and cons of both and you can really see that their is a greater benefit of breastfeeding. As we all know when we adopt that is not a possibility and to tell you the truth this has me concerned. I really want the best for our child and the book is making me feel like I will not be able to provide the best from the start. This is why I am looking for anything that is written for adoption and what we as adopted parents can give our babies just as if we gave birth them. I know that a baby is a baby and they all have the same needs, but how can we provide the best when we just don't have "mother's milk"?

I don't know how old you are, but if you were raised in the 70's and possibly the 80's too, there is a good chance you were bottle fed. There are many reasons why a child (even one you have by birth) can't be breastfed. Sometimes the mother have problems with this type of feeding, othertimes, a baby may be a preemie, etc. There are many ways to provide 'the best' for your child. My friend who delivered naturally had lots of trouble with breastfeeding her daughter and after a week or so (when she as a wreck and the child was losing weight) she tried a bottle and it was wonderful - her little girl thrived and grew! We have enough to worry about as adoptive parents - don't let something like breastfeeding make you feel anything other than equal to any other mother. You are obviouly going to be a great parent, already thinking and planning for your child and they are on their way - best of luck.

Understand were you are coming from and it makes sense (kind of). I am 29 and was born in 1978. I was bottle fed but because my birth mother chose to. To make matters worse I was bottle fed Orange Juice and not formula. I had a lot of medical problems as a child. Not sure how much of it was due to how I was fed as a baby but never the less....

I do understand what you are saying. It would be nice to have books out there for adopting parents. The baby book was written by a doctor who birthed 7 children and adopted 1, so I was really hoping that the book would take into account all cases. When it comes to feeding the new born it seems that there really is a push for breastfeeding, which is why I ask the question. I don't know about you but I really don't think I am going to have time to take the pills required to be able to breastfeed since most of the time we just don't know when the baby is going to come home.