I am an abandoned child. If you were my real blood birth mother I would want you to find me...unfortunately for me, my birth mother left me with no personal belongings so I will never be able to find her. The ache and hole it's left in my heart...will never fully go away....

If you gave her up for adoption, I'm sure she is ok. Looking for her is not the answer. It will probably hurt you more cause you can't have her back. I advice that you pray about it. God will listen and He will guide you. God Bless you because you did a beautiful thing. You gave that baby a good life. XOXOX

Hi sweetie, I know how much that image will give you pain, and joy, at the same time for the rest of your life. I'll be giving birth to my son sometime in the next 2 -3 weeks and he'll be given up for adoption, but i've chosen to spend time with him before that, as i want the chance to say goodbye. personally, i think, it would hurt me so much more, to never get to see his beautiful face. I think God put your little girl beside you for a reason. At the same time, i don't think looking for her is necissarily right. when did you give her up for adoption? Did you leave her with anything? Did you leave the agency with your contact information? I think, at the moment you need to trust that God is watching over her and keeping her safe, as difficult as that is, i know, and know that one day, if it is right, she will come looking for you, and you'll be able to look into her beautiful eyes again. May the strength and love of god be with you always, and the love for your daughter keep you forever strong. Best wishes, and i'm here if you want to talk. xox

Sweetheart, I've been in your shoes. I'm also adopted. Let her go. You want her to have a good life with a mommy and daddy. Can you give her that? I was 19 when I gave my baby girl up, she is 19 this November. You didn't say how long ago this was. I read your profile and you say nothing about it. If it was quite a while ago, you need to see a counselor. You will never forget that beautiful child! But what you did was make a right choice out of a bad choice. My birth-mother didn't get over the fact that she gave me up until she met me. I think she finally healed from that. I gave my daughter up and I had her in my room for 3 days before the adoption agency came to get her. I told her about her new family and how much I loved her and how much they would love her. I healed alot quicker. You must find forgiveness for yourself. I hope so much for you. Good luck
Ms. Missy

MAYBE YOU COULD TRY TO FIND HER BUT WAIT UNTILL SHE IS OLDER AND CAN UNDERSTAND WHY YOU GAVE HER AWAY. IF SHE IS A YOUNG CHILD IT MAY MAKE HER FEEL UNWANTED

Hi Tonie.. Did you go through a agency? I went though childrens aid and adoption society . If you went though one maybe they could send a letter for you? take care sincerely Faith&hope

Hi. I gave birth to my son on 1/20/96 and I took care of him in the hospital for the 4 days before they released him(I had a c-section). I spent about 1 hour kissing him, holding him and telling him goodbye before handing him to the adoption caseworker to take to his adoptive parents. While it hurt me, I'm totally glad I did since I don't know if i'll ever get to know him in the future. I still have pictures my mom took in the hospital and a few his amom sent me of him when he was like 6 months old. While I wish i had more, I cherish those greatly. I definitely plan to look for him someday, and I hope we can be reunited. I wish you the best with your daughter as well.
Melissa

I spent 3 whole days with my son, and I can't help but feel like I was a horrible horrible person for putting him up. I did what was best for my son and I know that. I love him with all my heart so i write letter's to teh adoption agency and when my son is ready to read them he will read them. That's the best advice I can give you. Write letter's to the agency.

Did you have a hand in picking the parents out? If so, then you should know in your heart whether or not she is safe. I know it is hard, I held my baby several times before I left the hospital, and he was my firstborn. You have to let his adoptive family be his parents now. If it is an open adoption, then you should be able to get letters periodically. My son's adoptive mother even sent me a lock of my baby's hair. Good luck!

Don't let her go. Yes it will hurt like crazy, but I gave my daughter up 15 1/2 years ago, and maybe the ache wouldn't be so bad, but for the 15 years I knew she was okay and happy, just in the last three months she was sent off to a boarding school somewhere, and the not knowing hurts far worse then it did watching from the side lines. I would find her just to make you feel better knowing that she is okay. I don't want to scare you but just because you gave her up doesn't mean that everything is fine. I thought I picked out the best parents for my daughter and she is now gone, and after months of secretely cutting herself she told me about it. I don't believe the pain will ever go away, no matter what choice you make. Some days are easier then others and then there are days that you don't want to get up.

I know what you are going through Tonie. I am 60 years old, and I still have feelings of guilt at relinquishing my baby for adoption in 1968. I did have a reunion with him in 1992. I do wish the relationship was closer. He lives quite a distance from me and is now married. He and his wife lost a baby last December.

How old is your baby? you have 6 months to change your mind, who did the adoption? you can petetion the court . was it open or closed?