ummm, shaky ground, isnt it? That seems like a tough situation. I'm not sure of the "right" thing to do. I think for now the best thing to do is nothing. I'm not sure of the circumstance of his adoption, if you knew his parents names, it must have been open. The safest thing to do may be to contact his parents first and let them know what's going on. I think that is what I'd do....hard to say. I can completely understand your excitement and I KNOW how hard it would be to wait, but you have to do what's best for him...as if you had to be told that. I'm am anxious to see what other advice you get on this matter. When I was 16 I would have had a hard time dealing with something of this magnitude. I waited until now to find my b-mother...I'm 32. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.

I would have not actually made contact until he's 18. You can't be sure how his parents might react because he is under age.

I agree with everyone else. I know how hard waiting is and though you might feel ready...he deserves to live his life with his family in peace until he comes to you on his terms. That's what i think anyway.

You really should back away. I am sure that it was wonderful to see pictures of him, but you should stop all contact. I waited until I was 19 to meet my birth family (which was 7 years ago), and I still have a difficult time with the relationship. It is very hard to balance your relationship between your family and your birth family. Please, for his sake, leave him alone until he is older. I am not trying to be mean or harsh, but it really is in his best interest to leave him alone. You should also think of his family. What if they have other adopted children in the house? They could wonder why their birth family has not contacted them, thus feeling rejection. It could just open up a whole can of worms for his family. Not to mention, depending on your adoption agreement, you may be breaking some rules of the adoption agreement. If his parents decide to pursue the matter you could have some legal issues to deal with.

Thanks for all the advice. I was not planning on starting a relationship with him over the computer or anything. I know I am not his mom-I gave those rights away. I was happy to see that he looked well and content. I had an open adoption, and his parents have sent me pics in the past-but not for a long time. This is partly my fault, because I went through a period where I moved around a lot. My question, if I did not tell him who I was, then how could I get into trouble? And, if I could get into trouble, what kind?

being adopted myself I would have to say that lieing is not the best way to start off a relationship with your son. Just be honest

I have to say I know I would watch his page, but I agree with everyone else that contact should stop now.

The legal ramifications could be at the least a restraining order if your adoption documentation states anything to do with contact. If he goes to his parents with the information that one of their old friends contacted him, it's checked into...could be problems. You stated you've not seen pics in a long time due to things that happened in your life, have you contacted them to ask for an update? That would be one of my first steps...

I found out I was adopted at 15 at 16 I met bio-mom...it rocked my world, I wasn't ready

I contcated the adoption agency today, and told them what happenend. They are going to tell his adoptive parents, and I am not in trouble or anything. So, I am relievd on that front.

As an adoptive parent that would creep me out. I think I would have to ban my kids from creating a my space page. My BM had a myspace page and posted pics of my daughter and that was creepy. She took them down after we contacted the agency.

Oh, I don't have pics of him on my page, just my other kids.